I originally started working two jobs so that i can pay the debt that both my gf and i have incurred. I have two sons with my soon to ex-girlfriend and i want some advice. If she takes me to court for child support, i am going to quit my second job so i can fight for 50/50 joint custody. Will she be able to successfully get the courts to include the income from the second job, if i no longer work there? I know that usually the courts take into account how much i have spent with them before the child support was started, so it will be a little difficult to get 50/50. Going with this assumption, will be ok to assume the same with the second job's income? We live in CA.
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Father's Issues / RE: I am an amateur and have several questions.
Jul 24, 2008, 11:59:15 PM
Having throughly thought about how my time is mostly given to either work or school, if she decides to take me to court for child support, i am definately going to have to quit my second job so that i can show the court that i am willing and able to spend the time my kids are with me WITH me. I am going to try to get joint custody so i know that i need to quit one job in order to be able to spend 50% wih my kids, if i get joint custody. However, will she be able to make the judge take the income from the 2nd job (if i quit) into consideration for paying Child Support?
Because my girlfriend is in maternity leave she has been taken care of both babies. However, i have been trying to get her to go back to work because she has many bills piling up like the car, which i have decided to not help her anymore. Three months behind the car payment shows how unrealiable she is handling money. Can the courts take this into consideration? Meaning, can i request the courts to make my girlfriend sign a contract or something that tells her to not be late on paying the car payment, because if she is making late payments while we are living together, what is there to stop her from missing payments when we separate?
Because of my two jobs and lack of sleep my patient is very short, so if my lilttle one would take my cell phone, drop any type of liquid on the floor, etc, i would raise my voice and/or spank his hand. My co-worker told me instead to try instead sending him to time-outs which have work even better than expected. i haven't raised my voice or spanked his hand in 5 months. Regardless of what anybody may think, i was raised in a culture where even teachers were allowed to issue corporal punishment to whatever extent they deemed necessary.
i have told her already that i am not helping her pay what she owes for the car, even if it is repocessed. I know that it will definately kill my credit but that is a chance i am willing to take. I work in a debt settlement company so i know how what to do once the car is repoed.
about the medical...because neither of us had our own insurance we used the state's 'medical' insurance. Tania sent this subtle threat "if i take you to court, because we used medical to deliver Damien, they will make you pay for the expenses". This surprised me a bit, because she showed me that the bill was about $21,000 to deliver Damien which Medical covered all of it. My question is am i going to be responsible to pay back the state the $21,000?
Because my girlfriend is in maternity leave she has been taken care of both babies. However, i have been trying to get her to go back to work because she has many bills piling up like the car, which i have decided to not help her anymore. Three months behind the car payment shows how unrealiable she is handling money. Can the courts take this into consideration? Meaning, can i request the courts to make my girlfriend sign a contract or something that tells her to not be late on paying the car payment, because if she is making late payments while we are living together, what is there to stop her from missing payments when we separate?
Because of my two jobs and lack of sleep my patient is very short, so if my lilttle one would take my cell phone, drop any type of liquid on the floor, etc, i would raise my voice and/or spank his hand. My co-worker told me instead to try instead sending him to time-outs which have work even better than expected. i haven't raised my voice or spanked his hand in 5 months. Regardless of what anybody may think, i was raised in a culture where even teachers were allowed to issue corporal punishment to whatever extent they deemed necessary.
i have told her already that i am not helping her pay what she owes for the car, even if it is repocessed. I know that it will definately kill my credit but that is a chance i am willing to take. I work in a debt settlement company so i know how what to do once the car is repoed.
about the medical...because neither of us had our own insurance we used the state's 'medical' insurance. Tania sent this subtle threat "if i take you to court, because we used medical to deliver Damien, they will make you pay for the expenses". This surprised me a bit, because she showed me that the bill was about $21,000 to deliver Damien which Medical covered all of it. My question is am i going to be responsible to pay back the state the $21,000?
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Father's Issues / I am an amateur and have several questions.
Jul 24, 2008, 11:18:02 AM
I am currently living with my girlfriend whom i have two kids with. One is going to be 2 on september, and the other is 3 months old. We had our eldes t through medical because at the time we could not afford our own insurance. Unfortunately it has reached a limit where i can no longer live in the same roof with her.
I work two full time jobs and try to go to school full time as well, so i am constantly tired. Because i make more money than she does i take care of a couple more bills than she does i.e. food, cell phone, utilities, etc. All she is responsible for paying is the car (which we are both co-signers), half of the rent, and finally her own bills. I have been working my A*S off to pay off debt that both her and i accumulated and have been successful at it, however, she is now going to be 3 months late on the car that we both co-signed. This just makes me so angry that i only get about 2 hrs of sleep if i am lucky. Her lack of financial responsibility and unwillingness to be more proactive with her financial responsibility have just made me say "I want out".
She constantly subtly "threatens" me by saying stuff like: "All i have to do is say that you hit my kids and the courts will grant me full custody", "because Damien (our 1st kid) was born with medical ins, you will have to pay double the CS", etc. I would like to know a couple of things:
if she takes me to court to file for child support, how likely am i to get 50/50 custody? Apart from some speeding tickets, i have no criminal record, there is no signs of abuse to my kids, nor my girlfriend. I am a very strict dad, but i never abuse any of them.
If i were to quit my 2nd job because she is taking me to court for child support, how likely is it that the courts will take into account my ex-2nd job's income in calculating child support? if they take it into account, when will i have to quit so that it will not happen?
Do i have any say as in where they live? Meaning that if i say that they (my girlfriend and kids) cannot leave the state (we live in CA by the way), will the courts comply with my request, or am i powerless in the matter? She has threatened me to move away if we end up separating.
If she tells the courts that she cannot work for whatever reason, am i going to be responsible of her part of bills?
I work two full time jobs and try to go to school full time as well, so i am constantly tired. Because i make more money than she does i take care of a couple more bills than she does i.e. food, cell phone, utilities, etc. All she is responsible for paying is the car (which we are both co-signers), half of the rent, and finally her own bills. I have been working my A*S off to pay off debt that both her and i accumulated and have been successful at it, however, she is now going to be 3 months late on the car that we both co-signed. This just makes me so angry that i only get about 2 hrs of sleep if i am lucky. Her lack of financial responsibility and unwillingness to be more proactive with her financial responsibility have just made me say "I want out".
She constantly subtly "threatens" me by saying stuff like: "All i have to do is say that you hit my kids and the courts will grant me full custody", "because Damien (our 1st kid) was born with medical ins, you will have to pay double the CS", etc. I would like to know a couple of things:
if she takes me to court to file for child support, how likely am i to get 50/50 custody? Apart from some speeding tickets, i have no criminal record, there is no signs of abuse to my kids, nor my girlfriend. I am a very strict dad, but i never abuse any of them.
If i were to quit my 2nd job because she is taking me to court for child support, how likely is it that the courts will take into account my ex-2nd job's income in calculating child support? if they take it into account, when will i have to quit so that it will not happen?
Do i have any say as in where they live? Meaning that if i say that they (my girlfriend and kids) cannot leave the state (we live in CA by the way), will the courts comply with my request, or am i powerless in the matter? She has threatened me to move away if we end up separating.
If she tells the courts that she cannot work for whatever reason, am i going to be responsible of her part of bills?
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