My wife and I have been maried for almost 12 years. After a 3 and a half month short term disability, due to foot surgery, I returned to work. I knew I'd need to work lots of overtime in order to catch up on some debt and my wife was due to have a hysterectomy in a couple weeks and we wouldn't have her income. But 5 days after I went back to work she filed for a divorce. Now I not only need more money to pay back debt and supplement her income, I have to pay $1000 of child support and start a new home for myself and make sure I have the things I need when my 2 boys come to stay with me. That's first and last months rent and a deposit. Not to mention new utilities and food. I went through my finances and discovered that after I make my monthly payments and pay her $1000 I have $400 left to pay rent, utilities, groceries, etc. My future EX refuses to believe that the courts would allow the child support to keep me from being able to support myself. I've told her I'd have to work overtime just to squeek by and then she could take me back to court and raise my support according to my income including the overtime. Talk about a "catch 22". What's a guy supposed to do? Another kicker is, I found out at work that I was going to be served divorce papers that evening. The person who told me this devestating information found out from an ex-boyfriend of my wife's. She had lunch with him a few days prior and she told him that she was divorcing me. He works where I do and he thought it was necessary to tell some of my co-workers, who then told me. That was incredibly painful and humiliating. Thanks for listening.
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