First and most important - at this point in time, I don't believe that even if I could wave a magic wand and suddenly have access to the children that this would be a good thing since they are so brainwashed and against seeing me...
I live in Wake County, NC and I am looking for help for my children.
My question pertains more to what I can possibly do in order for my children to receive the help and attention they need. The ex and her attorney have played a terrible and expensive waiting game - using the system and dragging out the process to the point where it has just worked in their favor. They have successfully separated the children from their father.
My question is, the information I am looking for is, how to get the children into therapy. They are 13 and 10 (a boy and a girl). They are adamant in the fact that they do not wish to have contact with me. They are very convincing that it was through my own actions that we have grown apart. They are brainwashed, they have been involved in the divorce and the proceedings since this ordeal began (over 3 years ago).
I believe there are two separate issues here, but the system refuses to address them individually - the first issue is that I have not had any contact with my children in over 2 years. The second issue is that there were false charges raised a year after the divorce process started. Apparently, Child Protective Services can become involved, keep the case opened indefinitely without any movement or closure. It is solely due to this fact that I have been prevented any contact or access to the children.
There is also documentation (a psychological evaluation) indicating that the mother is alienating, enmeshed with the children, and has involved them in the process.
While these issues drag on, the children suffer. If I can't have access to them now/yet, I would feel much better knowing that they were talking to a responsible professional about the fact that they do have a dad who loves them, wants to be with them, and misses them very much.
Any ideas, comments, or thoughts as to how to move this process forward and to get the appropriate help for the children?
Thank you for reading,
Arch
I live in Wake County, NC and I am looking for help for my children.
My question pertains more to what I can possibly do in order for my children to receive the help and attention they need. The ex and her attorney have played a terrible and expensive waiting game - using the system and dragging out the process to the point where it has just worked in their favor. They have successfully separated the children from their father.
My question is, the information I am looking for is, how to get the children into therapy. They are 13 and 10 (a boy and a girl). They are adamant in the fact that they do not wish to have contact with me. They are very convincing that it was through my own actions that we have grown apart. They are brainwashed, they have been involved in the divorce and the proceedings since this ordeal began (over 3 years ago).
I believe there are two separate issues here, but the system refuses to address them individually - the first issue is that I have not had any contact with my children in over 2 years. The second issue is that there were false charges raised a year after the divorce process started. Apparently, Child Protective Services can become involved, keep the case opened indefinitely without any movement or closure. It is solely due to this fact that I have been prevented any contact or access to the children.
There is also documentation (a psychological evaluation) indicating that the mother is alienating, enmeshed with the children, and has involved them in the process.
While these issues drag on, the children suffer. If I can't have access to them now/yet, I would feel much better knowing that they were talking to a responsible professional about the fact that they do have a dad who loves them, wants to be with them, and misses them very much.
Any ideas, comments, or thoughts as to how to move this process forward and to get the appropriate help for the children?
Thank you for reading,
Arch