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They are private sitters, I am not being given the right of first refusal, I only know the names of the sitters with no other contact information.  I attempted to get the information from the CP but she refuses.  I will be filing contempt charges today on that and a few other matters.

The real question is though, If she takes me to court over the payment of the sitters are the written receipts valid. There is no other proof that anything was actually paid Also she gives me the  statement of childcare costs 4 months in arrears which leads to a massive amount due. $2,249.00

I have been given advice to provide the babysitters copies of IRS 1099 (Miscellaneous Income)  have the sitters swear under oath that they are being paid.  Anything else?

Please!!!!!!  I am at my wits end

 I am in Pennsylvania, I am challenging the payments made to private childcare providers because the CP's "evidence" of payment are hand written receipts that list "cash" as the form of payment.  I fully do not believe the receipts are valid forms of payment.  But, how do I present the challenge in the hearing.  Ask for the bank transactions that show the CP withdrew the cash necessary for payment?  Ask for tax records of the parties receiving the income?

What is the best course of action?

Thanks for any help you can provide

>......there's not a whole lot you can do.  We used to have
>the same sort of problem, but BM would send SS in totally
>inappropriate clothing for the weather (quilted sweats in the
>summer, thin t-shirts in the winter, etc.) and ALL of it,
>including underwear, was bought at a second-hand store.  Once
>I found the '50' written on the tag of SS's underwear, I cut
>up every pair in his bag and DH had it out with her, telling
>her that that's what he paid CS for.  She never sent 2nd hand
>underwear again.
>
>In this case, buy the clothes that you need to, but keep them
>at your home and never allow them to go back with your girls.
>Then during the weekend, wash the clothes that they came in
>and send them back in it.
>
>The clothes issue is one that comes up quite
>often...........it appears to be a tactic that CP's use to
>thumb their noses at their ex.  In our case, BM did it to make
>DH look bad, but it backfired on her big time.  The 1st X-mas
>that DH and I were together, DH had SS X-mas day and 2 days
>after.  When DH picked SS up, SS was dressed to the nines,
>even with matching socks!  She didn't know if we were going to
>see my family or DH's, and didn't want to look bad herself if
>we went to mine, LOL!  We went to DH's, and it pi$$ed her off
>royally.
>
>Unfortunately, it's not an issue that gets the attention of
>the court....too trivial.  So send them back in what they came
>in and hopefully sooner or later she will get tired of
>'playing the game'.  What would be nice is for her to see you
>with your daughters and how nice they look....once she sees
>that you don't let it affect you, she may change her tune.


I do exactly that but, you say that there's not much I an do?  Isn't clothing an ESSENTIAL part of Child support payments.  That my expenditure in purchasing a significant amount of clothing is in essence paying support twice.  I have a difficult time paying what I'm paying and this really makes it worse.

Anyone on the hand written receipts issue.  Can the CP decide whatever she wants to pay a private childcare provider

The CP of my two wondeful daughters ages 7 and 10 is providing hand written child care receipts with out any other backup or proof of payment. do I have a right to question the validity of these receipts.  the amount that she is spending on childcare costs seem outrageous and doesn't jive with her economic situation.  if I take her to court over these receipts does taking an oath automatically make them valid?  

Another note.  since the CP does not pack clothes for the children for my parenting time. I am forced to purchase clothes for them.  If I didn't they would be in the same dirty clothes an underwear all weekend or 4 weeks over the summer.  This is not acceptable