Kitty~
I do agree and understand what you are saying. I do plan on telling my DS the whole truth and unfortunatly for my DS it is a harsh truth, at this time I do not think he will understand. What his Bio father did to me is terrible, but that is for another time. I have been with my fiance since I was 5 months pregnant and he may not be a bio father to him but he is his dad! No if ands or buts!
I have tried on several occassions to set up visitations with my DS and his Biofather but he either doesn't show up or calls to say that he can't make it. The last time I drove 3 hrs to meet him and he never showed up. After about 5 phone calls he answered and said he had to go back to Florida early. He knows where I live in WI which is about 3 hrs away from where my parents live, but thinks that stopping at my parents house to see my DS (which its been about 2yrs since he has done that last) is and attempt to see my DS. I have also tried to get my DS to speak with biofather on the phone but he refuses because he doesn't know who he is, even after I try to explain (hence my thoughts that he is to young).
I would love to have him term his rights after my fiance and I are married and have my future husband adopt him, but I know he will refuse. He likes to brag that he has 3 children in 3 states by 3 women. According to his sister and mother it is a control issue for him.
We have tried mediation via phone since he lives out of state some where and wont tell me or the courts where he is, but that was unsuccessful. I wrote up a visitation agreement and he said he would never consider what i was offering. On the other hand I would never consider what he was offering either.
Sorry if I went off on a tangent, I need to vent quite badly!
I do agree and understand what you are saying. I do plan on telling my DS the whole truth and unfortunatly for my DS it is a harsh truth, at this time I do not think he will understand. What his Bio father did to me is terrible, but that is for another time. I have been with my fiance since I was 5 months pregnant and he may not be a bio father to him but he is his dad! No if ands or buts!
I have tried on several occassions to set up visitations with my DS and his Biofather but he either doesn't show up or calls to say that he can't make it. The last time I drove 3 hrs to meet him and he never showed up. After about 5 phone calls he answered and said he had to go back to Florida early. He knows where I live in WI which is about 3 hrs away from where my parents live, but thinks that stopping at my parents house to see my DS (which its been about 2yrs since he has done that last) is and attempt to see my DS. I have also tried to get my DS to speak with biofather on the phone but he refuses because he doesn't know who he is, even after I try to explain (hence my thoughts that he is to young).
I would love to have him term his rights after my fiance and I are married and have my future husband adopt him, but I know he will refuse. He likes to brag that he has 3 children in 3 states by 3 women. According to his sister and mother it is a control issue for him.
We have tried mediation via phone since he lives out of state some where and wont tell me or the courts where he is, but that was unsuccessful. I wrote up a visitation agreement and he said he would never consider what i was offering. On the other hand I would never consider what he was offering either.
Sorry if I went off on a tangent, I need to vent quite badly!