Well I have to admit I'm relieved to finally be apart of an online community that has applicable help for single fathers. I've been on tons of child raising sites since I found out about my son , but none really have information reptaining to what I'm going to post...so lets have at the nitty gritty of it?
Alright...my ex girlfriend gave birth to my son back in April. I was unemployed and we agreed that since we both thought he was too young for day care that I would stay home with him while she worked. We lived at her mothers house and she took care of the expenses while I attended to our son. Well when he was two months old I discovered she had been cheating on me with her ex and when I confronted her about it she left her moms house and moved in with her ex.
Since I could not stay at her moms house with no job , I moved back into my mothers house with my son and I've been raising him since. When we first split up she gave me a little bit of money for me to cover my bills and purchase stuff for our son. Well after about the fourth month that stopped all together because creditors and bill collectors were hunting her down and began deducting money from her check. So that left my mother and my sister to pay for my sons supplies (when needed). Now my ex would purchase things for our son on occasion but the bulk of what was needed came from my mother and sister and I should also note that her visists became less frequent as time passed on.
Well regardless I've been at my new jobs for almost two weeks now and I've had my mother , ssiter , and my ex's mother(she defends me) on my ass to go for full custody ever since this all happened and in all honesty I'm scared to death of going to court. My ex wants joint custody but she lives in a tiny studio apartment with her ex and one of his friends. Now while
I still want her to see and spent time with our son I do believe that I deserve full custody and I've even tried to discuss this with her but she will hear nothing of it and threatens to go for joint...I've been the driving factor in my little boys life for over seven months now and I know that seems like pittens in terms of time some other people spend with their kids but this little boy is the driving force in my life and I just want what I think is best for him which is that I should have total control over who sees him , where he goes , and for how long...hell I'm already doing it now but I just want it on paper y'know? Sorry if this seems like one long rant but I really have absofreakinglutely no idea what to do from here. Thanks guys!
-Joshua
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Alright...my ex girlfriend gave birth to my son back in April. I was unemployed and we agreed that since we both thought he was too young for day care that I would stay home with him while she worked. We lived at her mothers house and she took care of the expenses while I attended to our son. Well when he was two months old I discovered she had been cheating on me with her ex and when I confronted her about it she left her moms house and moved in with her ex.
Since I could not stay at her moms house with no job , I moved back into my mothers house with my son and I've been raising him since. When we first split up she gave me a little bit of money for me to cover my bills and purchase stuff for our son. Well after about the fourth month that stopped all together because creditors and bill collectors were hunting her down and began deducting money from her check. So that left my mother and my sister to pay for my sons supplies (when needed). Now my ex would purchase things for our son on occasion but the bulk of what was needed came from my mother and sister and I should also note that her visists became less frequent as time passed on.
Well regardless I've been at my new jobs for almost two weeks now and I've had my mother , ssiter , and my ex's mother(she defends me) on my ass to go for full custody ever since this all happened and in all honesty I'm scared to death of going to court. My ex wants joint custody but she lives in a tiny studio apartment with her ex and one of his friends. Now while
I still want her to see and spent time with our son I do believe that I deserve full custody and I've even tried to discuss this with her but she will hear nothing of it and threatens to go for joint...I've been the driving factor in my little boys life for over seven months now and I know that seems like pittens in terms of time some other people spend with their kids but this little boy is the driving force in my life and I just want what I think is best for him which is that I should have total control over who sees him , where he goes , and for how long...hell I'm already doing it now but I just want it on paper y'know? Sorry if this seems like one long rant but I really have absofreakinglutely no idea what to do from here. Thanks guys!
-Joshua
<edited by SPARC Admin for whitespace>