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gemini3,

Thank you!   I've read "I Hate You Don't Leave Me" along with "Stop Walking on Eggshells".  I've heard about "Splitting", which will be the next one I'll read.
As for her diagnosis, which I believe to be Borderline Personality Disorder with strong narcissistic traits, she has refused to go for any help.  As you know, BPD's believe nothing is wrong.  Her statement to me was, "I'm not going to a psychologist or psychiatrist because all they do is screw with your head and would tell me that I'm wrong."  The situation is much deeper than what I've mentioned above because I'm attempting to be brief.  She does have 3 other children that I now see have been affected by her behaviors.  Once this child is born, I'll find out within days if I'm the father.  I understand it's an up hill climb with this situation, yet I still have to look for resources to assist me with my upcoming custody battle.  I have an attorney that is very good, but also very expensive and I'm not made of money.
I've been told there are groups, attorneys, etc. out there that assist with father's rights.  I've been searching the net for contacts.  So if anyone can point me in the right direction, I'd greatly appreciate the info.  Thank you for your input!!!!!

What state are you in?  Did just separate or actually get a divorce?

I'm in Florida.  I've been separated since May 2008 and the divorce is scheduled for trial at the end of March.

Hello,

I have a unique situation and making the story short...I married a woman in March 2008 and separated from her in May 2008 because her disposition changed 180 degrees.  It was like a light switch flipped and the person I knew and married, didn't exist anymore.  After leaving, I was approached by her ex-husband and others with the belief that she suffers from Borderline / Narcissistic Personality Disorder.  I've been studying these disorders and speaking with professionals on the topics and believe that she does suffer from the illness.  You have to be knowledgable on the disorder to understand it...in short, the BPD can not be wrong.   The blame is always projected on the other parties.  So, she believes nothing is wrong and refuses to go to counseling nor psychologists/psychiatrists for help.  I've been very brief and with that said, my question pertains to child custody.  Two weeks after I left the home, she tells me she's pregnant which will ultimately be determined by paternity testing.   BPD's usually have issues with faithfulness and that also holds true in my case.   I need resources for help in preparing for a possible custody battle for the child (due date 2/2/09).  Once the child is born and I verify the child is mine, I can not let this child be raised by this BPD.  All the information I find states explicitly that children raised in that type of environment grow up perpetuating the illness (learned behavior).  Again, I've been very, very brief with the info because there is so much.  I would appreciate any help to direct me to resouces to help me fight for the safety and protection of this child.

Thank you for your help.
Jeff