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I'm in Dubuque Ia and she is going to Elmhurst (Chicago) IL.  I don't want to get in a big custody fight and I am agreeable to her having him live with her, I just want to make sure that she doesn't screw me down the road and keep him from me.  I want to be able to see my child at least every other weekend and switching holidays.  My son is 2.5 years old so school isn't an issue yet.  Would we be alight with just a writen agreement getting everything down on paper for now and having it noterized?

My wife and I are seperating in a few days.  We have talked about divorce but for now she is saying that it is just a seperation and "we will see what happens".  She claims to have lost her feelings for me and says she has feelings for another man.  I live in Iowa and she is leaving and moving in with her parents in Illinois.  My question to you all is do you think that I need to go with my wife to a lawyer to have a temporary custody agreement writen up so that I don't lose out on any of my parental rights by allowing her to move my child out of state.  I know that if we were not married that this would be the cource of action that I would have to take but I was wondering if it was any different because we are married and not going through the divorce proceedings at this point.  Right now we are handeling everything very agreeingly but I know those things can change and I don't want her to be able to have the upper hand because I didn't cross my t's and dot my i's.

Thank you very much for your informed advice!