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Thanks for your input!  I appreciate it!

Wow, thanks for the lecture.  Clearly struck several chords with you.  Thanks for the advice, I will take it into consideration, and think twice about posting again.  As for the hurricanes, I was simply commenting on a previous post (not yours). 

I think it's unlikely, even if the 13yo wants to go.  He has been able to have access to both parents, who are both fit and good parents, up to this time.  Moving that far will be limited access to his mother, and any other siblings he may have at his house.  At 13yo moving to FL probably sounds cool, but he doesn't realize the actual impact.

What about the impact of us moving away?  Why is it I feel like that isn't as important?  If we were relocating for work purposes, there would be no question, right?  To be honest, we have zero communication with the other half...and have begged the court system to give ONE of us sole custody, taking the risk that it might be his mother!  Shared parenting has never been the ideal situation for us because we do not speak, I mean at all.  We have screamed that from the tops of our lungs in court, to no avail.  We have ss 20 days a month now, mom has him 10ish, we are school placement/residential parents.  Step dad has a slightly large chunk missing from his perfect parenting armour that has been documented by the courts. 

Cool, yes...without responsibility, unfortunately no!  I have thought about waiting until my ss is 18ish...but our other children are young now, and I'm afraid waiting longer will only make them not want to go!  And the housing market right now, what a steal to live within walking distance to the beach!  Who knows what it will be like in 5 years.  Is it wrong that I want to make one decision without custody of my ss as the utmost factor?? And the rest of what...the custody battle, or the hurricanes??  I'm from Ohio, hurricanes don't scare me...a tornado that pops up in a 5 minute thunder storm does!

From Ohio to Florida - pretty darn far!  The panhandle of Florida though, not Miami

Hello All!  What a wonderful resource this website is!  I hope I get many responses.  My husband and I have shaped parenting of his son from a previous relationship.  He will be 13 in December.  We want to relocate to Florida, by choice, not necessity, and his son wants to go with us/live with us.  We have a terrible relationship with his mother, and will not work this out without the courts involvement.  What are our chancec/choices/options to ensure he gets to come with us to Florida??  His mom/step dad have an almost flawless parenting record, 4 other children, 1 with special needs.  We too have a good parenting record, so neither of us is unfit!  Help, help, help please!  Thank you!