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"because of your deceiving pro-female, anti-father, anti children and anti-family stances brought on by your mis-guided idealologies." - Davy

Kitty C, that's not a style. That's a damaged human being.
Davy, please think about finding a therapist who can address whatever it was that hurt you so deeply as a kid, whatever abuse it was you suffered at the hands of whatever emasculating men in your life. My heart goes out to you, my head just doesn't understand why you attack people.

Kitty C. you are absolutely right about the tone being inappropriate, and I see that you're pointing out that posters having different styles. Words are powerful things, and fueling flames is not helpful. Please at this point take into consideration that the hostility with which Davy responded was not just a style, Kitty C. It was a bold presumption about a mom without knowing the situation. You're right about sarcasm not being useful here. My reaction was from the gut, and not from the head. It would have been better to address the original post in a positive way.

to CSVS : you're picking and choosing just to attack davy AND AGAIN trying to sway the post away from the subject matter post .  Clearly what I posted  is the  truth which you appear to have a hard time with :

"  As we know these matters are complicated and there is seldom a simple answer or resolution especially with atorneys/courts involved.  The kids grades slipping may be related to the  fathers's reappearance but the direct cause could be due to the mother's reaction and snide off hand negative remarks directed at the father which is upsetting to the kids.
We just don't know. "

I am very sorry, Davy. You did say that it was only a possibility. It may also be related to (and the direct cause being) a full moon during a wedding procession led by a high school marching band barking orders at large ballerinas wearing diving gear and carrying ostriches.

Hi my name is brittany, i am 20 years old and 20 weeks pregnant. I am currently going through alot with the father of my child and ex boyfriend. The pregnancy was totally unplanned... i was trying to leave him for almost a month before i found out i was pregnant, his family has a history mental illness and he isnt all there his self i dont believe. He held me against my will a couple of times and would shove me around and mentally abuse me alot when we together, i stayed for a month or so hoping things would get better for our child but it didnt it just got worse. I lost my job and i am living with my parents for now, he is threatening to take me to court and says that he is going to try to get full custody of our son... here is a little about his past, he has 3 felonies on his record for breaking and entering, theft and eluding police. he is a very possessive man, i didnt feel safe around him so why would my child. I was letting him go to the doctors appointments with me but no matter how hard i tried things always seemed to turn into a fight, i almost had a miscarriage because of all the stress i started bleeding one night and had to go to the er and they told me i had to take it easy or i was going to losemy child... i have a pst myself, i got a dwi and had a problem with alcohol and drugs but i got help for myself....  i am so scared i am going lose my son when he gets here... what should i do? or should i even be worried? anythng would help... sooooo please give me any advice..

Brittany, I don't see anywhere in your post that you want to put this child up for adoption. You describe an unsafe person, so it will be important for you to start documenting the abuse and danger as best you can. This means start making a list of people who have witnessed the abuse, and include their contact information with a sentence about what they would be able to testify to if need be. In addition, document the help that you received that shows you are now competent and safe. You have many options here, so biggest advice here is to take a deep breath and focus on having a healthy baby. It's possible that, if you apply for public assistance $, you will be asked to name the bio father, so keep that in mind.

You should contact a domestic violence hotline. There's also a great website called Love is Respect.org and you can get information there, too. Sometimes domestic violence advocates will go with you to court, sometimes there are agencies that will provide you with an attorney at no cost.

Brittany, do not give this child up for adoption without thinking about it looooong and hard. If you want to keep your child and find ways to stay safe, love this baby and raise him/her, then you have every right to do so. Terminating parental rights should never be decided during a moment of feeling overwhelmed and scared, but after a very long process of workig through the issues and finding there's no other way.

Good luck. You can also look on aardvarc . com website for information in your state on domestic violence resources.

...but the direct cause could be due to the mother's reaction and snide off hand negative remarks directed at the father which is upsetting to the kids.  We just don't know.

Help, Davy, where does Angus say this?