Trust me I would want nothing more then for her to be able to spend time with the mother but there is a reason I won custody and then there is the part that really erks me which is.. OK so the mom doesnt work and she has since been to the bahamas and califonia for some vaca/partyin...I mean seriously....... I have since made plans to do things with my family and I would be really upset if she just swooped back in and said OK (i'm done partying for now I would like to get her)