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Venting is good! I feel your pain! I have two step daughters...23 and 19...both still in college.The oldest just graduated a four yr college term and is still in need of a masters.so another yr and another apt in another state...guess who pays? I would not have such a problem with dad being the money train if they tried to have a better relationship with him.I feel he's being used.He says...its his obligation to his girls. Needless to say.I don't think they like me...they don't come around unless they want something.They say they want a relationship with the both of us...so they show up more often but seems to me...its only to get what they need from dad.We've only been married for a yr and a half..I know its easy to think,oh its early yet..they will come around. It's not that early..they have both said they don't want or need a stepmother!There were issues with them from the start..I'm wondering when do I give up....it's hard for me to not deal with them because he wants them over.I put up with the rude behaviors and attitudes because I do want it to work and because I love my husband.Every time the kids are involved...we fight.We're seeking outside prof help,we have to,its that bad.How do I deal with these ill feelings towards the girls? It's driving me crazy(if I had nerve pills!!!!) and it's causing prob for me and my husband.It's hard for me feel guilty(for my feelings) when my husband is agreeing with me and telling me I have every right to feel the way I do the girls are rude to you and they don't appear to be trying to better the relationship(although,when they are confronted about it,they say they are trying..we like her).Thanx for letting me vent...any advice out there?