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In the current world we live in all syndromes are reduced to acronyms. I think that there should be a new syndrome identified and researched pertinent to his type of  behavior. I'm thinking of calling it Aggressive Stepparent Syndrome, or ASS for short.

And tigger you are absolutely correct, thank you for that clarification.

I read this post and it really hits home with me as I am on the flip side of Kjerome12's anger. You see, my ex just recently got remarried. This man has made mine and my daughters life a living hell. I see my daughter every other weekend, and a few hours on Tuesday and have never missed a visitation except for the ones they are denying me. This man insults my Fatherhood, is abusive and hateful to me, is obsessed with taking over the role of Father and removing me from my daughters life. He even has my daughter calling him "Dad". Both of them co-conspired to file and testify to a false domestic violence complaint, and had me arrested for violation of a protective order for good measure. I'm sure he wouldn't hesitate to call me a sperm donor either.

Kjerome12's comment that "I own my own business. his $100 a month is taking care of the childs cat!" is eerily similar to what my ex's husband said to me, only my involvement is considerably more. I've come to realize that it's not the amount that bothers him, its the fact that I send anything that bothers him. He wishes no involvement from me towards my daughter which is exactly what I am witnessing here from Kjerome12. It's belittleing the Fathers contributions to his daughter in effort to increase his own to the point of obsession to become the child Father. I would even bet that Kjerome12 has her calling him "Dad" as well.

So, I have to reiterate what others have said in this thread that you Kjerome12 are not the Father to this child. You need to allow the Father to be a Father to his daughter in his own way. His $100 per month is his contribution to raising his child, and should command your respect as opposed to your ridicule. I'm sure the Father will become more involved when he is ready, and when he is ready he shouldn't have to deal with your resentment and anger which he probably is already exposed to. Perhaps this contributes to his reduced visitations?

I'm kida out of options here, with no where to turn.

My wife filed a Ex-Parte order and assault which was dismissed by the court. This was over 5 weeks ago. Obviously, I couldn't call to request visitation at all.

Since the dismissal, my wife still has physical (but not legal) custody of the child and refuses to let me spend parenting time with her at all.

In NC as many states, you must have a custody order to take possession of the child.

I feel I have no rights as a parent to the child since my wife's legal assault.


I don't know where to go from here without legal action which will take months and many dollars.



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