The stupid thing is that I wasn't contacted by normal means. My mother found out what had happened and she called me to tell me what had happened. I contacted childrens services and the court and was told by both that I needed to contact a lawyer. I did get in touch with one finally and am trying to quickly come up with the retainer that he is asking to get things started. The lawyer told me that once he gets the retainer he will file the papers for emergency custody and then for her to permenantly be taken out of state. I do not care if my ex ever pays child support. She has 3 kids (mine included) from different dads and is pregnant with a forth from yet another father. I just want my daughter to be in a safe, happy, normal enviroment and of course have always wanted her to be with me. I just don't understand why I was not contacted in the correct way when this happened. BTW yes my daughter has been living with the grandmother as that is where my ex lived.