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DadsCrushed:

Okay, I will send advice for him to document all efforts to see his son.

The mother has been on medication for seizures and she has been unable to work or fully care for herself or her son.  Originally, she had been in a coma and then when she was out of the coma she was not communicating verbally.  The doctors were convinced she would never have normal function of body or mind.  That is why they advised institutionalization.  The husband nursed her back far beyond the doctors expectations.

It may be her parents that are part of the plan to deny him custody or visitation at this point.

4honor:

I will ask about what was in the divorce papers about custody.  Is an ex parte motion something he can file himself?  The clerks at the courts have been immensely unhelpful to him.  If there is something in the divorce papers about custody, what else can he do legally to be able to see his son?

snowrose:

Yes, I will let him know that he needs to emphasize he has been the primary caretaker, provider and main psychological parent.

Does anyone know if there is any kind of legal aid organization that can help fathers who don't have much money?


Thanks for all of your advice.  I will forward it to him.

A friend and his wife had a child 2 and a half years ago.  During
childbirth the mother suffered severe seizures and almost died.
The father took care of the baby and even the ailing mother,
even when the doctors recommended she be permanently
institutionalized.  Miraculously, with the husband's doting care,
she amazed the doctors with significant recovery.  Although
she is still in a wheelchair, she is much improved.

Recently, the father and mother separated and the mother has
been living with her parents.  The father has been the primary
caretaker of his son, but has been bringing the child to be with
the mother and her parents on a regular basis as well.

To his surprise he was suddenly denied access to his own son
when he went to pick him up one day and was also served with
divorce papers.  He has been unable to see his son for 2 weeks.

Is this legal that a wife can deny her husband visitation or custody
when there has been no actual legal divorce degree or legal
separation?

The father has little money for high attorney fees and does not no
how to proceed to have shared custody of his son during divorce
proceedings.

Any advice?

Thanks!