I was told from multiple sides that a court is unlikely to change an existing arrangement of time spent with children. Our current 4/3 days plan has been in place for 8 weeks now. She requested to get the children every other Saturday from me originally, but has declined on that so far. So she is basically out having fun every weekend. Fine with me. Hopefully the court will see that. I am not sure how different it will be when the school year starts, since our plan has been put in place during the summer break. She tells me the children need consistency, to which I agree, but i would want to keep them on Wednesdays and she claims it would be bad since the children should stay during the school week with the same parent. Not sure if that makes so much sense and if a Wednesday with the other parent can be considered a disruption. I should say that I currently live 20 mls away from my old home and there is a drive involved to bring the children to school. However, my chidlren seem to have adapted very well to the new environment and have more friends here than at the old home.
Staying under the same roof: It was a slow transition: I began staying away for two of the four days and asked her to do the same. Her parents live just 5 blocks away so that was easy. She is an ER nurse and works PM shift (yes, a cheating ER Nurse with all the cliches, including those sparkling encounters with male colleagues in a bathroom at work, while taking care of patients), which means that she came home anyway late in the day when everyone was sleeping. Later on, I found out that her mother had bugged the house and audio-recorded my private conversations, so I began staying away completely from the house and began removing items to a new place. She still lives in the house on her days with her boyfriend but stays away entirely during my days. So at least that seems to be working.
Staying under the same roof: It was a slow transition: I began staying away for two of the four days and asked her to do the same. Her parents live just 5 blocks away so that was easy. She is an ER nurse and works PM shift (yes, a cheating ER Nurse with all the cliches, including those sparkling encounters with male colleagues in a bathroom at work, while taking care of patients), which means that she came home anyway late in the day when everyone was sleeping. Later on, I found out that her mother had bugged the house and audio-recorded my private conversations, so I began staying away completely from the house and began removing items to a new place. She still lives in the house on her days with her boyfriend but stays away entirely during my days. So at least that seems to be working.