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I also want to say that I have never in my life deneyed him to see his son for any reason and I have told him that he has an open door policy. He doesn't even have to tell me when he is coming, just show up. And since it is a 6-7 hr drive, I have offered to let him stay with us, no strings attached and would feed him.

And because Modesto is a high drug and crime area, I won't let my son go there until his father at least comes to see him for some time.

My sons father also refuses to answer any letters or requests to talk to either of us. He knows where we live, our email addresses and phone numbers.

What am I doing wrong? What can I do right?

My son deserves to have a relationship with his father. It shouldn't be left up to his father weather he is a part of his sons life or not.

My son is having problems because of this.

Thank you to any one interested in answering me.

I understand this is a web site for fathers who want their kids, so I hope I won't get bashed here.
I am the mother of a 15 y/o son which I have had sole custody of. His father and I had been together for ruffly 5 yrs, 3 of those yrs after our son was born.

Long story short, he talked me into moving close to his mother, who had cancer, and he was suppose to move there after he finished college. He basicly abandon us. After his mother passed, we moved back to OR. He lives in Modesto CA. He is also a meth/crack addict, 14 yrs running now. Want more info, just ask.

I have had a hard time in trying to collect child support. He is paying some now because it is being taken from him, but not the full amount. I have tried and tried over the yrs to get him interested in being a father to his son. Yes I still love him. I am not in good health, details are not important. I desprately want to get the two of them together before I go. I have done everything I can think of, including forgiving him of his child support arrears of over $20,000 that he owes his son if he would just be active in his life. I have begged and pleaded with him on every level I can think of. I understand that it is his "habbit" that is mostly keeping him away.

My question is, Can I sue him in small claims court for abandonment, child abuse and negelect? Would I flie in OR or CA? I am hoping that thru court, the judge would force him into a rehab. He was already arrested for having drugs over 2 yrs ago, but I know he hasn't stoped. CA isn't very good on the drug court.

If I can't sue him, (money isn't that important to me, but his son deserves it), does anyone have any ideas on how I can get him and my son together? Yes, I've already offered sex, lol.

If I'm not suppose to post here then I apologise. I just need help.