Thanks curious mom, part of why I have waited so long to modify the order in writing is because there is a third party involved. I wanted to be able to show the court that there has been some time of complete 50/50 physical custody in hopes to avoid any question from the third party. Momoftwo there have been many unfounded calls to CYS against me for things that the normal parent wouldn't have to deal with. In regards to the address change, well, lets see, I had to have my daughter show me where they live. In the last year I have devoted as much time as possible to being with my children. Prior to the move my ex would call to see if I could take the children when she was at work, and naturally I would. Since she has moved there has been no such offer, EVER. The other week I had to work during the day, on a day that was mine, and she said she was working also, at that point under the right of first refusal, it is my decision as to who cares for my children, however, my ex tried to dictate to me that I was to bring the children over to her boyfriend, I told her, no and that I will get them over when I got off from work.
As to the modification, my plan is to get it in this week. Once the modification has been sent out to all parties, including my lawyer, I will file a contempt charge against her. For several things, 1) failure to provide the address, 2- failure of right to first refusual 3- not allowing access to the children 4) constant drilling the children as to what happens while they are in my care 5- communicating information verbally through the children 6) poisoning the children's mind against me. I agree with curiousmom that the modification needs to be done first.
Now as to the support. I made and still make considerably less than she does. It is my understanding, that even if she is the one that files for it, since I make less than her I could end up being rewarded the support. Now look at this on her sworn request for support she states that she is not recieving aide from the state. The house is in her name, all utilities, internet, car insurance for 2 vehicles, gas, cigs for 2 adults, and who knows how much they both smoke. She is the only one working her bf is not and not collecting unemployment. She makes somewhere between $10.50-$12.00/hr at 35-40 hrs per week. You tell me she is not recieiving any aide from the state.
My goal and wish is that what is best for the children comes first. My hope is that all three of my children will one day say they want to live with me full time, and when that is stated I will fight for that. I agree with curious mom both children the one that I know is not mine and the one that is questionable, at this point, would not be in their best interest for them to find out I'm not realy "dad." I love all three of my kids, and obviously, my fiance feels the same way, or she would not have posted her question.
As to the modification, my plan is to get it in this week. Once the modification has been sent out to all parties, including my lawyer, I will file a contempt charge against her. For several things, 1) failure to provide the address, 2- failure of right to first refusual 3- not allowing access to the children 4) constant drilling the children as to what happens while they are in my care 5- communicating information verbally through the children 6) poisoning the children's mind against me. I agree with curiousmom that the modification needs to be done first.
Now as to the support. I made and still make considerably less than she does. It is my understanding, that even if she is the one that files for it, since I make less than her I could end up being rewarded the support. Now look at this on her sworn request for support she states that she is not recieving aide from the state. The house is in her name, all utilities, internet, car insurance for 2 vehicles, gas, cigs for 2 adults, and who knows how much they both smoke. She is the only one working her bf is not and not collecting unemployment. She makes somewhere between $10.50-$12.00/hr at 35-40 hrs per week. You tell me she is not recieiving any aide from the state.
My goal and wish is that what is best for the children comes first. My hope is that all three of my children will one day say they want to live with me full time, and when that is stated I will fight for that. I agree with curious mom both children the one that I know is not mine and the one that is questionable, at this point, would not be in their best interest for them to find out I'm not realy "dad." I love all three of my kids, and obviously, my fiance feels the same way, or she would not have posted her question.