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eagleeyefam-- did you get my PM?

Thank you so much for all your advice Tigger. i completely understand where youre coming from with every aspect. this has really helped a lot! i should be prepared for a lot of drama in the future haha.
if there are any updates ill post :]

thank you everyone for all your comments. id like to clarify a few things, not that it will make the situation any different, just a little add on. i understand he is still married and hes with me and that constitutes as cheating, but nothing came of us until after she moved out, we were only work acquaintances, as we worked in a large company and did not know each other well at all. we have not been dating very long, since she only moved out about six months ago.
i do my best to stay out of it, as i do not give my opinion of her and have told him to do whatever he has to do, its noy MY divorce and i understand that completely. i am not in her place nor have i ever been in her place but i do understand which is why i respect all of her wishes. she has said she doesnt want me seeing their daughter and i respect that to the fullest extent.
the only way i want to get involved is to find him the right help for HIM and HIS DAUGHTER in regards to visitation and things like that because he feels like he is lost and alone with the situation. its hard to see him (well hear him, since i cant see him because im in another state) upset and torn about what to do and with no help at all.
we are both young (early twenties) and money is an issue as far as attorneys go. ive tried looking online for legal help or attorneys with payments plans or anything along that line and i havent found much for him.

any added advice would be greatly appreciated and i feel a little better now from your comments, so thank you very much.

please someone say something

ok so i will try and make this as short and simple as possible.
ive never been in this situation before so i would like help and hopefully not a lot of criticism.

first and foremost, my bf is STILL legally married. the divorce is NOT final.
hes only been married a year and a half and has a 6 month old daughter with his wife. they have been have problems since before his daughter was born and his wife has been out of the house since shortly after his daughter was born. he just recently filed the divorce papers and got this whole thing started. the wife knows about me (hates me, but rightly stated) and ive been by his side the whole time. it has not been easy for him, nor for me, but thats besides the point, all i want to do is help him.
so, i was wondering if i can get some advice for his sake. his wife goes back and forth on wanting him back and "hating" him and wanting him back and so on. when she wants him back his options to see his daughter are open, but when she hates him, she prevents him from seeing his daughter, although they have NO temporary custody arrangements. she claims that his daughter cannot go to his house or sleep over until she is old enough to talk, i dont know why, but thats what she claims. or she says if he wants to be with me then he can forget about his daughter, which i understand why she would feel that way, but is not fair for HIM and HIS DAUGHTER. all of the times she prevents him from seeing her ive told him to log so that when they do go court he has proof that he has tried to see his daughter on however many occasions and shes prevented him.
she also frequently sends him threatening messages, of wishing he was dead and things of those sorts, which ive also suggested he log for when they do to court.
i do not live with my him, nor have i ever met his daughter do to his wifes wishes. although, he is trying to get me to move in with him to help him and support him with everything, because as of now i am living out of state.

i just need help, for me and for him. i have never been in a situation like this before and just need a little advice, and like i said id appreciate not being criticized for the decisions ive made and am making.

thank you.