Yeah, as ugly as it sounds, I am going to have no choice but to set up a pick up or drop off time and have the sheriff meet instead of myself. I am certain that he is avoiding legitimate employment in order to skirt the payment of his child support. He finds work here and there that pays under the table instead of obtaining steady employment.
If I don't do something, this will go on forever. I am not putting money over DD's relationship with her father. But the fact of the matter is, we are struggling as well. I have spoken with him on multiple occaisions regarding this issue and have expressed understanding to him that the economy is poor and I know he's having trouble. But it's been over 6 months since he made any attempt at paying his child support and enough is enough. His home is a poor environment for her and I rather she weren't exposed to it. He's an alcoholic and I'm pretty sure drugs are involved (or so I am hearing).
What I have decided to do is just to tell him that he is welcome to pick her up for visitation, but that I am calling the sheriff to enforce the outstanding warrant. If he chooses not to come get her, then that is on him. I won't deny visitation. But I will clearly state my intentions. He will avoid seeing her himself just to get out of this situation. He won't man up and take care of the problem. I'll be interested to see how long he'll be willing to let this go unresolved before he takes care of it just to see her.
If I don't do something, this will go on forever. I am not putting money over DD's relationship with her father. But the fact of the matter is, we are struggling as well. I have spoken with him on multiple occaisions regarding this issue and have expressed understanding to him that the economy is poor and I know he's having trouble. But it's been over 6 months since he made any attempt at paying his child support and enough is enough. His home is a poor environment for her and I rather she weren't exposed to it. He's an alcoholic and I'm pretty sure drugs are involved (or so I am hearing).
What I have decided to do is just to tell him that he is welcome to pick her up for visitation, but that I am calling the sheriff to enforce the outstanding warrant. If he chooses not to come get her, then that is on him. I won't deny visitation. But I will clearly state my intentions. He will avoid seeing her himself just to get out of this situation. He won't man up and take care of the problem. I'll be interested to see how long he'll be willing to let this go unresolved before he takes care of it just to see her.