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BM insists that child has no allergies. She even says that I had no allergies when I was in school Last week, before dog, I took him to doctor for asthma. Although it is probably impossible to say definitely that asthma started on her time, BM is a smoker, BM's male friend is a smoker and has a dog.  BM posted pictures of child, another dog and the new dog (gift from her and boyfriend). I feel that she is daring me to do something about it. 

I did not decide allergies, doctor determined that he was highly allergic to dogs and cats. BM knows that if child has to give up dog she can say it is my fault. I feel that it is a plot line that is growing to make child hate me and hate our time together because I am primary. I fear what the next step in her plot will be.

Thanks I will have a meeting with the doctor. It seems that the harder I try to follow doctor's orders, the more BM is determined to not follow orders. I feel that she is getting the dog to make the child want to spend more time in her home. Child has been more reluctant to go to her home, and says she is mean mom. I would love to get him a dog, but my priority is to keep him healthy. It is hard to compete with a new puppy. 

Our child is allergic to dogs and cats and some foods. Doctor has written letter to school and to us about his allergies. It will be written into final court order. We are still in court. Had asthma attack last week. Now BM is giving him a dog for his birthday. She is telling child and her friends. Child loves dogs. This is just another wedge issue that BM calculates that will make child want to spend more time at her home. BM tells child that there are no allergies. How should I handle the situation? Thanks

I will take child to doctor and obtain a test kit. Takes steroids often because of asthma. As a matter of fact, BM says that steroids cause to much "hyperactivity" and therefore does not want to give the full amount. BM does not think that asthma is a serious disease and thinks that I take it too seriously. Anytime you have a hard time breathing, it is serious. Thanks for the suggestions.

Just hoping that 2010 brings joy, peace, and happiness to each of you and your loved ones. For some of us, 2009 has been a rough and sometimes heartbreaking year, but we will be continue to be strong for our families because our love makes a difference in their lives. Thanks to all who have reached out to help me and others this year.
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Asthmatic child's Dr. called me last week and said that his allergies were severe. No smoking or pets. Dr. also called mom with test results.  Today he came home reaking of smoke. What should I do to prove that he is always returned in this condition? I know that smoke smells evaporate. He also said that he was given allergy meds. She did not tell me. I will text her to find out what he has taken, because I do not want an overdose. How do I preserve the evidence or can I.

I know that I must find balance, because I have been letting the court matters fill every minute of the spare time in my life. This weekend, I will try a little de-stressing (after I find what will help).  It helps to talk to others who know the stress of what goes on in family court. Thanks group for your positive comments.

I would like to know how some parents deal with the constant stress and strain of court issues. I know that my journey has been very short compared to others.

I have temporary primary custody of our son. Final court date is early 2010. Today, my attorney called today to say BM demands depositions from family members and me. I admit that I am feeling very anxious. Is it for me to spend more money? How should I prepare and what does she expect to come from the depositions? Thank you

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