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Hi, this is a discussion of course I will have with my lawyer.  Just want to know other's feedback on this.   My ex keeps trying to leverage the words of our nine year old boy saying, "well our son said you did blah blah blah".    I know these things aren't true.  I am kind of wondering if I should just sit down with him at a table and videotape the conversation.   I have no one else, and don't trust GAL to do the interview. 

let me know what you think, and if anyone has done this before. 

You are way off and did not read my post clearly, or you are a little slow.  I am very willing to support my children, when I am with them I will buy whatever they need, as I already have been doing.   What I do already includes paying exorbitant child support, plus school supply shopping and clothes shopping and signing them up for their activites. 

What I am against is the dinosaur system in Illinois that hasn't been changed in 30 years and I am against giving money to an unstable woman who will probably use my own money against me for legal fees in the future as I see so common, especially in typical cases of abusing the system with false allegations.   I will have custody of my children and my ex wouldn't have to pay me a dime.   But I want this settled.  So if I pay their heathcare, co pays, but them things they need for school, and sign them up for activities, all of which I am doing now, then what else is there?    Pay "child support" so the ex can buy a new car or take out her boyfriends for dinner?

that is the stupidest thing I ever heard.  then that is true that the law in Illinois is a dinosaur.  I will help my children financially regardless, especially when they are with me I will feed and clothe them.   

Just ex will abuse privelege and surplus money, that is my concern.   how ridiculous.

I live in Illinois.  My wife is divorcing me now that I put her through medical school and she is about to start making $300,000 a year.   I don't make a great income.   I don't want to pay child support for obvious reasons.   We are approaching a settlment, and I am about to be a little more agreeable with some things if I can say "o.k., i will agree to that as long as I am not required to pay child support".   then we can get this thing settled and that would be good.   can a child support right be waived?   even if my wife wanted to agree to my terms, can she?

looking to network with dad's in chicago / cook county area who can share information and discuss problems and potential change.  please contact me and email my inbox on this website.  thanks

has anyone brought their issues to the attention of the media?   I know some reporters like to expose corruption and judicial unfairness.   I have seen some horrible things in my friend's divorce case, to the point that even the judge violates the law.   it has got to get out.  we need to expose these people. 

anyone got any advice.  anyone already got a project going on this?