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My son just turned 12. In the state of OK that is the "legal" age to request this. He has been asking for over 2 1/2 years when he could tell the court this.
I've been patient and waiting for this time to come.
My attorney talked to my son and decided that he did seem mature in his decision to change living arrangements.
What kind of "evidence" or documentation would benefit my son's position situation.
a year and a half ago, he told his aunt that his mom's live in at the time, hit him and called him a name. It was reported to DHS. Should we subpoena the social worker and the report?
I'm curious how harsh to be. I have a feeling with what I ahve had to deal with from her it isn't going to be nice.

You should file for shared parenting.
There isn't any reason why the children wouldn't benefit by being with either parent, even when asleep. Think about the evenings that they have a bad dream, are sick, and so on.....a parent is better than a babysitter when a child needs nurturing.

When my ex and I had joint custody(2yrs ago), she had our oldest son start seeing a psychologist. Without my consent. I do not disagree our son would benefit from counseling, however, not this particular one. When I voiced my concerns, I was ignored. Judge ignored the contempt also.

Since then, ex made life a living hell. No matter what I did to get along, she was contradicting, harassing. Well, simply a control freak. Using the kids to be vindictive.
So, the judge granted her sole custody. Extremely biased.Decision made with evidence proving documented lies, recordings etc...
Small town.
2 yrs later our son is of legal age to voice his wishes(OKLA) I understand the concept he has to have sound reasons.
However, she is sending him back  to this same psych. I am telling you and everyone, it isn't for our son, it's for her to manipulate the situation.
I have evidence to use to support my son(and his little brother) wanting to live with me.
My ex  finally agreed to a(after the judge denied last court hearing) PC and now refuses to participate since this situation w/ our son has come up. the PC was the first person to make her follow orders or at least show common sense.
Now, even w orders she refuses.
I asked my attorney, he is passive, but my parents and I are in this over $20,000.
But I know and anyone involved(but the damn judge) knows that something is amiss.
My kids are suffering PAS and I have to sit by and see what will happen.....
I would just like for someone to give me a site or documentation with facts in black in white what my rights are so I can save my kids form being used and my right to be their dad.
As far as rights to records and such, I have them, however, to quote the ex, "I don't have to follow the rules, because I have sole custody and I said so!"

After being denied a PC the last custody hearing,not only being denied that,but  the ex-wife rcvd sole custody, I was denied first right of refusal, a second opinion for my son that has been seeing a psychologist; now going on 3 years, (that she had him going to without my initial knowledge when we had joint custody), and she refuses to allow my parents to pick up our two sons, etc etc....
This last spring I requested a PC again and this time she agreed (by her attorneys pressure.) After things did not go exactly her way, and the custody ordered actually being followed, she is now refusing to participate. So, the PC will not discuss issues with me.
There is a court order for this PC. I have read the order and understand the concept that neither one of us can refuse....so I thought.
Meanwhile, my son(both actually, but will stick with oldest) turned 12 and has bee requesting to live with me ever since divorce. He is now of "legal age" to be heard. He is also now being sent back to said psychologist(who refuses to talk much to me).
What are my rights?
My lawyer is passive and has been paid and with interest so that's not an issue......
Where can I find laws and statutes with legal grounds to take into my lawyer and tell him point blank these are y rights....
To ice the cake...judge is gender biased and has already been stripped of his retirement for giving a mom the kids when she in depth and mediation adn counsil agreed they would be best with dad. Appealed with OSC and won, judge lost...
I'm up against a lot but will not give up my parenting rights. I need basic info to have in hard core writing to throw up against this system.
Any help out there?