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Parenting Issues / my mom rejected me.
Nov 30, 2009, 12:57:40 AM
i am 27 now. my parents devorced when i was 9. she left never called back again. i grew up not knowing my mom, till i decided to find her after 18 years. it was last spring that Ifinaly find the courage in me to start looking for my mom, i found her through internet and set a date on mothers day-to meet her after 18 years. she was so nice at the beginning.

But suddenly she changed and the reason was i decide not to tell my dad about her...
I'm not bringing the reasons why i didnt choose not to tell my dad. but My mom really pushed me to tell him, and when she realized that i might not tell my dad she put me down.
She didnt tell anyone about me either! her parents didnt know that i have contacted her nor her boyfriend. finally She told me that she doesnt want me in her life because the relationship with her daughter in law might be broken because of me,She was disappeared again.

First i accepted this, came back to my life, trying to forget about her.
On the other hand i have financial problems in my life. i am both studying and working. takingloans for school. And really have  hard time money wise. 

So after 2 months not hearing from her i decided to email her and ask money. she was never there for me emotionally, at least she could help me financially. Again she put me down. She replied: i'm not responsible for any financial or emotional difficulties you may be having. You can turn to your father for that.

When i put the puzzle together i realize that she only wanted to get revenge from my dad by pushing me to tell him but me myself never meant anything for her.

So my questions are: is a mother allow to do this? Am i really asking to much from her?Is she responsible for me or not? What the law says about this?