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Ok The decision came back, and because of my one bonus last year, (which was based on last years sales. I make Video Games for a living) I was stuck with giving her almost half my paycheck.
The judge also ignore the children's attorney who stated 50/50 custody, and gave her 9 out of 14 days to have them. Also my oldest wants to live with me, he is thirteen next month, but he refused that (the boys lawyers even recomended it).
I am out of money, and she has threatened to do this till i am broke. What now?

Thanks again.

Hello all,

I am seperated from my wife and am in the final throws of divorce/custody battles. My wife wanted to take the kids back to Arizona from here in NY when she filed for divorce. She claimed that there was emotional and physical abuse. The Judge through it out, and made this ruling " if she leaves i get full custody, if she stays we get joint with her being the primary custodial." This seemed great at first but ended up being a nightmare, as she is still not working with me on raising our children.
4 Days before our house sold (which she had lived in since the seperation, i paid all the bills) she bolted  to Arizona and leaving the kids with me. She left for 3 weeks and when she came back she was planning on living in a house with 7 other people. That makes 12 people and 2 dogs in a small house, i put a stop to that and she moved in a place of her own, with her father's help.
She is making it impossible for me to work with her on the children. Making doctor appointments without me, asking for more money than is reasonable, talking down about me to children, her friends are doing the same to the children, keeping me only in the loop as she absolutely has to. The children don't want to live with her, or half of them, they constantly fight when they are with her, with her and eachother. They are having problems sleeping. She drags them to tothers houses 5 out of seven nights a week.

I am just wanting us both to work on the children together, but from what I have read i am affraid of being a statistic, of another father being screwed by the courts. What do i do. My lawyer does what she has to, but nothing more it seems BTW. She doesn't respond to me most of the time.

Thanks in advance.