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I have not been able to pick him up at all. I have not had a visitation with my son in over a year and a half. When I call a few times trying to talk to him, she changes her phone number.

When I took her to court last time, I represented myself and they done nothing about the visitation contempt I filed for, the judge told me to catch up my child support in two months or she would put me in jail. That was it. She would not even hear my case after my ex telling her I was a month behind in child support. The judge said she was withholding visitation from me because she was stressed out over money.

Two years ago she got into the car with him and refused to get out of it. A police officer had to tell her to get out or he was going to cuff her, and she refused again. The policeman talked to her and said let him go this time and see how it goes. She finally got out of my car.

I have made an appointment with a lawyer for the end of this week. Hopefully, we can have my current order modified (very particularly) and enforced. You guys have been great with your advice. A person feels like they are alone in situations like this.

I'm am purchasing the book now as we speak. What I mean when i say I haven't got him a weekend in over 1 1/2 years is my son has not been to my house in over 1 1/2 years. She refuses me to take him to my home or take him anywhere for that matter. After 18 months of no word from her or my son, she tells me she has been busy and that is the reason she has not returned any of my calls. I have been calling her to set up arrangements to get him for a weekend but she blows me off with call her tomorrow or she is too busy to talk. When I call her tomorrow, she wont answer any of my calls. She does have a landline phone and I was notified last night by her husband (who my son calls daddy, like he did her husband before that) who called me in response to me trying to call her all day that they were not going to give me the home phone number to their house or not give me directions to where they live. He said the reason they were not answering their cell phones when I called is because they don't want to talk to me and they don't have time for me. I asked them to make time for our son then they hang up the phone. The order is not specific by any means, it is vague with every other weekend and alternate holidays, it says nothing about phone conversations, I'm just trying to re-establish a bond with my son before it's too late. All this time she keeps him away, he thinks I don't love him. When I try to call, she tells our son I am starting arguments with her. Last time I tired to take her to court to get my visitation enforced , she told our son I wanted to put her in jail.

The court order states the days of the week from Friday at 4pm till Sunday 8am. We alternate holidays.
The child is 8 years old.
And you just stated an idea that I had earlier. We have a taped conversation of her calling me on speaker phone while she told him what to say, he got tongue, told his mother to wait a minute he couldn't say all that. He tried to cover the phone so I couldn't hear that bad things she was saying about me but she told him to uncover the phone that she didn't care if I heard that or not. I told my son numerous times I loved him and he didn't need to be hearing mine and mommy's arguments, it wasn't his fault we were arguing, but my ex said, He needs to hear this. I know I can't use it in court but maybe a counselor could hear it and talk to him. He needs someone he can talk to about these things.

  I have joint custody of my son with standard visitation modified a little so he can still attend church with his mother on Sundays. I have not got to keep him for a weekend in over 2 years. She put him on speaker phone and I could actually hear her telling him what to say to me. She fights with me on speakerphone and urging our son to jump in and take up for her. I don't know where he lives, I don't know his home phone number, she only gives me her cell phone. My ex-wife lets my mother get my son sometimes but my mother is instructed not to bring him to my house. I live an hour and a half from my mother and never know when he is coming so can't schedule around work to go over there and see him. I can get a lawyer but I'm afraid it will only make things harder on our son. She puts him in the middle and makes him choose, she tells him horrible things about me. If he tells me anything she said like wanting to take me to court and have my last name taken from him, she spanks him and says he is lying. She wouldn't return my calls at first over a year ago, now she has my number blocked and everyone who I might try to call from numbers blocked.