Hi SD.
We have this problem with our childs Mom too.
We find simply sharing with her when we will be leaving, typically we will give an address. But, exchanging a number other than our cell phones is not neccesary. The trouble is always getting reciprocity in the exchange of information back when we request it
But, unless there is a "Right of Refusal" in your husbands decree - she can't refuse the trip. Just make your brain and heart hurt every time you go thru these trips.
We find that we are very clear with her on when she can contact our child, or when our child will contact her and that when is convinient for her is not always convinient for us as a family. It took her months of testing these waters but we stuck to our game plan and it worked. She can call between 9-5, and a call will be returned to her in 24 hrs unless otherwise specified in advance.
Making clear "rules" seems to work for us. But, that headache has yet to go away with trips like you are describing with your family.
It makes it feel more normal to see someone else going thru the same struggles.
JK
We have this problem with our childs Mom too.
We find simply sharing with her when we will be leaving, typically we will give an address. But, exchanging a number other than our cell phones is not neccesary. The trouble is always getting reciprocity in the exchange of information back when we request it
But, unless there is a "Right of Refusal" in your husbands decree - she can't refuse the trip. Just make your brain and heart hurt every time you go thru these trips.
We find that we are very clear with her on when she can contact our child, or when our child will contact her and that when is convinient for her is not always convinient for us as a family. It took her months of testing these waters but we stuck to our game plan and it worked. She can call between 9-5, and a call will be returned to her in 24 hrs unless otherwise specified in advance.
Making clear "rules" seems to work for us. But, that headache has yet to go away with trips like you are describing with your family.
It makes it feel more normal to see someone else going thru the same struggles.
JK