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I am a proud father of 2 little ones here in Kentucky.  I was never married to the mother.  We were together for 4 years and have been separated now for about 6 months.  We have so far shared 50/50 custody of the kids (although, I have spent a lot of time 'helping her' during her time with the kids).  She now wants a written agreement filed with the court.  As it stands right now, I make less money than her and we are both struggling to keep up on bills, but we find a way.  I believe she wants to bring this into court for the sole purpose of being listed as the 'custodial' parent so that she can get child support from me.  I believe her intention is to keep the 50/50 deal, but wants to get support.  We split all of the child care costs right down the middle.  If it turns out in court that she is given this title, I believe she will file for child support.  The reality is that I am much more active in the kids lives and spend more 'face to face' time with them than she does.  If I have to pay chlid support, I will likely not be able to provide a home for my kids in Kentucky and be forced  to live with my parents in Michigan (free rent).  This ultimately will change the 50/50 deal and take my kids away from me for most of the time.  I'm scared to lose any time with my kids.  I have been researching gender discrimination and such things to prepare for a possible battle in preserving my time with my kids.  Does anyone here have any suggestions of how to approach this or court cases that I can review that may help me - should it come to that point?  Thank you in advance.