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Thanks for the support!  I am fueled by rage because I love her and my son and want to be with the both of them not just a visitor and the thought of her just shutting me out and not wanting a relationship right as the baby is born cuts pretty deep.  Yes, I am giving her money for whatever she needs.  I bought about 2,000 dollars worth of stuff for the baby before the baby was born.  Right now I do have a hard time excepting where I am at with the whole thing and wondering how I was so easily played for a fool.

  First of all I want to say thank you for other Fathers making this web page and others like it.  I'm a new Dad and it's really exciting but at the same time I'm not married or with my son's mother and I'm only allowed to see my son for one hour a day.  I don't understand how someone can let a new dad see his son for only one hour a day, but at least I do get to see him because I've read many other horror stories that are a lot worst than mine.  We aren't married and I did sign his birth certificate in the hospital but now I have to possibly go to family court.  I'm looking into what my rights are and what I can do to be in my son's life as much as possible.  I have fantasized my whole life of having a family with a mother and father and kid's but it doesn't look like its in my cards.  I drive home after seeing my son everyday fueled with rage and I do my best to not go crazy.  I love my girlfriend and my son and feel completly hopeless at times but that's neither here nor there I just needed to vent to some people that understand the feeling's I'm going through about possibly being a distant figure in my son's life.  I know I need to do whatever it takes to be in my son's life as much as possible and stay on decent terms with his mother. 

Thanks for listening to my rant!

    I'm new to this whole father's rights thing but I believe I am going to be more and more involved.  I myself am a UBF and think I am going to be getting a lawyer real soon because I'm only allowed to see my son for one hour a day.

    I read your post and I hope you do as much as you can for father's rights.  Do whatever you can to reinvent the wheel don't just sit back and think others have already done enough.  I found this website in hopes of joining and hearing out other Dad's custody problems and what can be done.  My son is only a couple weeks old and I know I need to do whatever it takes to be in his life as much as possible. 
   
    We were together right up until a couple of weeks before my son was born and then she lost it.  I was there for the birth and everything though so that was good but a couple of days after she had our son she says she doesn't want to be together with me.  We have had numerous break ups in the past and they usually blow over but this one cut very deep.  I bought my son everything for his nursury and bought her anything she needed to be comfortable and now I'm just cast out and can only see my son for one hour a day.   I don't believe it's fair and I need a lawyer because there is no way I'm going to stick my head in the sand and cry about this,  I have to do whatever it takes!