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For contempt. Dad has done three of the four instances you mentioned and there's more.

The commisoner did explain the process to me at the hearing. It was a naive mistake on my part.

I assumed that he would not spend $2400 in atty fees to have me charged for trying to better our daughter's life. He never said "Enroll her at (old place) or I'm going to file a contempt order against you". In actuallity he kept saying "maybe next week I'll agree, I have to look into it" and then he just stopped responding all together.

[Should I file my own order?]

I'm the CP of our 9yr old daughter. Her father (NCP) filed a contempt order against me for changing her daycare without his 100% agreement. We have joint decision making for daycare in our PP. I was charged with contempt, I admitted knowing that he was not in agreement.

I thought that since I could prove that she was unhappy at the prior place, spent a full year trying to negotiate with dad / dad's attorney to find a new place he would agree on, enrollment is done each year so I HAD to find a place when school started 9/2010, new place was a proven better facility, I arranged my work schedule so that there would not be an increase in expense, that the court would not find me in contempt. Dad had no basis for not agreeing.

I was wrong. (this is where having an attorney of my own would have been good)

Anyway - I was fined $100 and in the order it says that I can "purge" the contepmt by going to dispute resolution (mediation in our PP) and if no agreement to file for a court hearing.

I've sent a co-petition form for mediation to dad / dad's attorney. Hopefully he will sign and return.

MY QUESTION: Prior to our hearing for the contempt order I thought that charging someone with contempt was only used in extreme cases, but after my experience and research I realize that dad has done several things just in the last year that I could file a contempt order against HIM on. I feel like he knew I wouldn't return her to the old daycare and he and his attorney were just waiting for me to have to enroll her for fall when school started so they could find me in contempt and feel very resentful over being treated this way. Let alone how all of this has affected our daughter - Should I file my own order?