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Did you make sure it was cancelled?
Depends on your courts...some MAKE you do mediation first. Call your family court house and see.

Is she going to drop the case? If she made no real try to see him when he was in your state???

I would email her if you can and just write down what happened...without really yelling at her..lol
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I am a little confused. We were supposed to have mediation on XX but got you text that you needed to cancel. You did not make any attempt to see XX while in NV. Are you coming back here for mediation?
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Then you can get proof with her response that she was there and missed mediation and did not ask to see child.

Since this is her case...let it go. Now she will have to reschedule and fly back up to you... No court order, no flight this summer, so now you def will not get court orders for this summer so you wont have to worry too much about that.

If she drops case, go get custody in your state...

Yes I made sure it was canceled. I have the text messages she sent.

I don't know if she will drop the case, she would not discuss anything with me.

She made no attempt to see him at all, however she did go to her other son's baseball game to see him. She got to Vegas late Friday night and I waited all day for her to call and let me know when she wanted to see her son.... nothing.  So I decided to go to my son's brother's baseball game (which was my plan before she informed me she would be visiting).

I showed up at the game and was shocked to see her there. I walked over to her with our son and she just stared at him then turned to watch the game. She did not even acknowledge him until I kept encouraging him to go say hi and after 15 minutes of encouragement he walk over and tried to get her attention. She said about two sentences then kinda ignored him.

I have the text messages between us regarding the ECC and they are similar to your suggested email. Do you think I should email her saying this same thing or will the text messages be good enough? (I can forward the texts to my email and print out a paper copy so they are not just recorded on my phone.)

I did not ask her if she planned on being her for mediation, though. I don't know if she even knows that she may need to attend. I am sure however that she can not afford to make another trip up here so soon after this one.

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UPDATE

Unbelievable!!! She text messages me about two hours before we are to have the case conference and says she can not make it because she has other plans!!!


In addition to her cancelling on me, she didn't even try to see her son while she was here this weekend! Can you believe that??? The only reason she saw her son for about a half hour was because I just happened to show up to my son's brothers baseball game and she was there!

She didn't even say hi or try to talk to our son. It broke my heart but fortunately, he didn't seem to remember her because he just acted the way he does when he meets new people.


Does anyone know what my next step should be?

First, could she pay for two tickets both ways a few times a year?

Since she moved, she is mostly responsible for all travel costs.

Does she work? Will child be in daycare in her care?

Do you have temporary custody now? You really need to get the ASAP so she does not come this weekend and take her (and probably get away with it IF you do not have anything in writing) If you do not have it, go get it tomorrow morning from family court. Tell them mom is in town and you fear she will take child out of state.

You have court this weekend? Never heard of court open on the weekend here...

I would think no more than 14 days until the summer after Kindergarten...then do a school long distance plan. Maybe a few 7-10 days during the year and 14 days in the summer. Really depends on how much she has to pay for flights...how many times she can pay.

She claims to work at a daycare, other than that she refuses to give much detail about anything.

We are meeting for the Early Case Conference this weekend. This is required by Nevada court rules before a court date can be set.

No temporary order exists at this time, but I did file a joint preliminary injunction and I am not planning on leaving my son while she visits him. The agreement between us is that she can see him but only if I supervise and the visit takes place at her parents house.

Couple of questions first....

Do you have a court order for custody?

Also what does it state about visitation?

No Custody Order yet, but we are having the early case conference this weekend as she is going to be in town, as I understand it after the ECC the next step is discovery, then they will set a date for a hearing, at that hearing the judge will send us to mediation (unless we can resolve everything on our own) then after mediation (if things are still unresolved) I guess we go to trial.

I need some ideas of what I should offer as far as visitation goes. I would like to bring some suggestions to the ECC this weekend if possible.

State: Nevada

Mother leaves state with 'boyfriend' but leaves 3 year old son (2 at the time she left) with dad. For six months Mom refuses to give an address to where she is and only calls to talk to son once a week for about 2 minutes, and several times did not call.

Eleven months later, Mom decides she wants to see her son. She is requesting the 3 year visit her in Texas for 8 weeks during the summer.

Dad says Mom may have had mental issues (possibly schizophrenia) in the past.

Mom has 3 other kids from another marriage ages 8, 11, and 15. When she left the other kids had never spent more than one night at a time without mom, but mom left them with their father as well.

I need some ideas for visitation. I am not comfortable with sending my 3 year old to Texas for such a long amount of time. Should I ask the court to deny visitation under the circumstances?

Originally (before it was verified that she moved out of state) I was willing to agree to a schedule where she could visit him anytime she wanted as long as it was at her parents home of she was accompanied by one of her parents.


Her parents are concerned about her having unsupervised visit as well, and have offered to testify to this affect in court if needed.