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Thank you all so much.
Our position is to pay the $50 a week to her and tell her to give it to her son for college or do what she wishes with it. There will be no college payments from us until that ends at 21....we can't afford it. We don't know how that will go down but husband will be speaking to son and explaining situation to him. Husband is not working and laden with debt since company folded so unless she really wants to go to court big time to get $$ from me, I think she will accept the situation. Hopefully.
You've all been very kind. I'm most grateful.

The divorce was signed in court, but not the child support or custody terms which were agreed in mediation (of course the mediation agreement is legally binding as they have both signed it). A lawyer has just advised us to keep paying until SS 21, or we could begin an action in GA to stop paying but this would be costly not to mention bad for relations. Looks like SS won't be getting college money....too bad.

Thank you both for your interest. Mediated agreement was not submitted to the courts. CS is paid by check monthly. She has not filed anything in GA to our knowledge - visitation and CS both agreed upon in mediation agreement.

Any advice most gratefully received:
Husband & I live in NY state. Terms of custody and child support agreed with ex-wife by mediation in New York state in 2007 & 2004. We pay $50 per week for step-son.

Step-son and ex-wife live in Atlanta, GA. SS turned 18 in May. We want to give him money for college. Ex-wife says we need to keep paying child support until step-son is 21 as we live in NY state. I believe she can kiss my Irish arse as Georgia finishes child support at 18. It's either child support or college money but not both.

Anyone know which laws apply to us? She would have to take us to court as there is no existing court order, just a mediation agreement. If she has the right to do this (& I don't believe that NYS law applies to her in Georgia), can she sue for back payment even though that was agreed through mediation and has always been paid?
Thanks for your fine help.