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any man can be a father but it takes a real man to be a dad. i have two ss that both call me mom. they are both teenagers and i have never told them that is what they need to call me. i started out being called by my first name and yet they both have chosen to call me mom because that is what they see me as. i think thiat everyone has blown this thread out of perportion. were all entitled to our opinions and thats all any of us give each other.

we filed a motion to modify parent child relationship. i cant fid anything on emergency orders. we cant afford an attorney at this time. where can i find the paperwork for emergency orders. thanks for all your help.

we have callead cps and nothing was done. we have filed a modification of parent child relationship. no she doesnt have a place of her own, she informed us today that shes staying with some different friends from when we picked my ss up. my ss asked me today if he would have to talk to the judge in front of his mom, he said she scared him and he was afraid what he would do when she finds out that he doesnt want to live with her anymore. with the modification papers filed and my ss putting in writing that he doesnt want to live with his mom, does his dad have to make him go back to her at this point or can he refuse?

My husband and I are filing a Motion to Modify on our own because we cant afford to hire an attorney. We have my SS at this moment and will file the motion before we are suppose to return him to his BM. If we honestly believe that it is NOT in his best interest to be returned to her due to her not having anything that is stable for him. She has moved him more then 7 times in the last year. He failed the 5th grade (he is 13 yrs old and should be in the 7th grade). He didnt attend summer school due to her up and moving him again. She has a 15 yr old that hasnt lived with her for the last year. She moved in with friends in a different city then mom because she was tired of moving (mom allowed her to do it). Then after school let out the daughter moved out of state to live with her father that she had just met and disowned her mother. My SS has stated to and has put into writing himself that he wants to live with us because he are stable. He has a roof over his head and he knows that he will always be able to have something decent to eat. Can we for his safety keep him at least until we go to court for the modification and see what the jugde has to say?? Please help me with this. Any and all help is greatly appreciated!!

So brwneyedmom, am I suppose to correct them when they come to me at bedtime and give me a huge hug and say goodnite mom?? I think not. I have already made it perfectly clear to them that if that is the way that they see me and they choose to call me that then, yes, that is their choice! There are some things that at a particular age they have the right to make certain choices of their own. That is what makes them learn to make choices for themselves. It is called growing up. Now if I were to tell them "this is what you have to call me" then I think things would be alittle different. I guess to each his own. But i see all these kids as mine whether they are biologically or not.

Depending on the childs age I think that it is the childs choice. I have a 13 yr old SS and a 14 yr old SS both of which have always CHOSE to call me "mom". I have other kids of my own both older and younger and my 13 yr old SS has always made the comment that I have been more of a mother figure for him then his own. They have both been told that they are welcome to call me whatever they were comfortable with as long as it wasnt disrespectible. So my opinion is that each case is different.

My husband has a 13 year old that we get to see and talk to when its convient for his mom. She has up and moved at least 7 times this past school year. That means he changed schools at least 7 times. He failed the 5th grade and was suppose to attend summer school however she moved again to live with "friends". Her 15 yr old daughter has disowned her because of the way that they have been treated to go and live with her dad that she just met 4 months ago. She gets over $500 a month in child support and instead of invessting that in a decent home or reliable transportation she blows it on whatever. He doesnt even have a toothbrush with his mom and has told us that he doesnt brush his teeth when hes with her. She sleeps til 3 or so in the afternoon and leaves this child to fend for himself. He has recently stated that he wants to live with us because he has a home and real food. He says that when he is with her that he has no one watching over him. He gets to run all over doing whatever he wants to do because his mom doesnt care what he does. When he and I sat down to talk he started crying because he said his mom is going to be mad at him for not wanting to be with her anymore. I tried to explain to him that there was no reason for her to be mad at him for wanting to feel safe. That there was nothing wrong with feeling this way. We want to file to modify the orders that are currently in place. We have him right now for the summer. If we keep him instead of returning him when our visitation is over because we are concerned for his safety and well being, what consequences are we looking at?? I am hoping to have the modification request filed before that happens but we wont of gone back to court yet. Our first priority is to try to give him a healthy happy childhood.  Any advise will be greatly appreciated. Thanks for everyones help!!!!