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My husband and I have full physical and legal custody of (his) our daughter and have for the last 5 years.  The Ex has a history of serious mental and antisocial issues for several years, dating back to way before daughter was born.  She was first diagnosed with BPD several years ago, didn't "like" that diagnosis, and refused to participate in any psychotherapy sessions/treatment regimen.  Six years ago, she wa "rediagnosed" with Bipolar disorder.  Did a little better (when she was on meds) but has been off meds for two years, and since we are demanding documentation from a psychiatrist that she is emotionally and mentally stable enough to have extended, unsupervised parenting time with daughter.  (In her most recent episodes, she Moved from Indiana to New York, and then to Florida, all with no notice to us, our Daughter, or the courts!) 

Is it really difficult to get "Supervised Visits Only" in this situation, especially since there is an issue with distance?  (We live in Indiana, she lives in Florida). 

Also, how do we approach the subject with our Daughter?  Do we try to explain the differences between the two disorders, or just leave that alone for now?  We are having problems with her making grandiose plans and promises to daughter, and her getting her heart stepped on time and time again when those promises are broken.   I have a wonderful relationship with SD, and she calls me "Mom" and we are closer than she is with her bio mom. 

I currently have very minimal contact with her, and if anything, it is through email.  How should we handle communications between BPD and daughter?