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Hi, I have a particularly complex situation.  I am recently divorced with joint custody of my 14 year old son.    The divorce was contentious, with my ex wife turning my 18 and 14 year old againest me through parental alienation.   I was accused of abuse when things started going bad during the divorce when my ex lost her job.  A GAL was hired and early on wanted a physc. eval of my ex but we did not pursue it for cost reasons.   I am supposed to see my son every Sunday for a three hour visitation which started ok but now he is refusing to even get out of the car.   We are also working with a reunification therapist weekly who my son is also now refusing to participate in.    At our last court appearance, the judge chastised my ex and lectured her at length.   The judge also told my exs attorney that she might order and eval and that she has taken kids from their mothers before.  We are scheduled f to report back to court soon and I am very discouraged as to what avenues the legal system has to force a 14 year old into visitations and therapy if he does not want to.    The GAL has been less that helpful throughout the process.     I would appreciate any advice....

Hi, I am in the middle of a very contentious divorce...we have been separated for over a year and the stuggle is over the 2 children...13 and soon to be 18.    the kids are with my wife and she has very sucessfully turned them againest me...My wife and I fought alot during our marriage and did not set a good example for the kids.  My wife is also on an undisclosed SS disability for some type of mental illness..  We have a GAL for the kids.   I am working with a therapist and the kids because they say they have no desire to see me.   We have temporarily put off a full custody psychological evaluation of my wife and me to see if therapy goes anywhere.   I love my kids dearly and my dilema is do I keep forcing the full evaluation, which further prolongs things and may result in me getting custody of the minor child who does not want to be with me; or try and settle with some type of visitation that my wife of the kids will not abide by (because they don't want to see me...).     I am very stable...same job for 25 years, great references, etc.   My wife has worked on and off-never steady and very controlling....help!