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We have a lawyer in Ottumwa Iowa, but it is being heard in Appanoose County Iowa.  The judge is James Q Blomgren.  The lawyer seems to be ok, I think he is just as confused as us when it comes to the rulings of this judge.  Maybe it's just we are out of towners 

Thanks so much for the support!!!  I feel like we are just hitting a brick wall with the Iowa courts.  My husband has been through so much with this woman, I really don't know how much more we can take.  But do keep going trying to do what is best for the child.

What's really sad is that before my husband found out he was the bio father, another man was court ordered to pay child support on this child.  The child and a sister were told that the other man was their father for many years.  It took the mother's mother to tell the man he might want to get a DNA.  I feel for both of those kids...wish we could help both of them.

My husband file for custody over the summer of 2011 while his daughter was here in North Carolina visiting with us.  a lot of crazy things have happened in this case that just can't be explained.  In 2009 child support was started in North Carolina.  In 2010 the mother moved from NC to Iowa.  In Jan of 2011 she filed a temp. order requesting increase in child support in the state of Iowa.  Husband's lawyer tried fighting by stating it was not legal as child support was already in North Carolina.  Of course we lost...so, lawyer is appealing.  The way things have gone in this case, it seems that in Iowa they don't even look what's really going.  Husband could careless about child support, but we don't want to pay in 2 states.  She should have to follow the law and call NC to have it increased, but she knows she can't because he is paying what he should.

I don't know if I really have a question or if I'm just venting because it just really bothers me he is getting pushed around like this. 

My husband found out in 2008 that he had a 8 year old daughter...that was in August. In Sept. of 2008 he started seeing her every other weekend and all holidays. Nov. 2008 he had his DNA because she was going through the state to get child support. Feb 2009, child support is started.

The whole year my husband saw his daughter every other weekend, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. He had her the whole last weekend of Feb. 2010. On March the 1st 2010 he received an email via Facebook that she would be moving to Iowa with the child in 3 days. We live in North Carolina. He tried to stop this from happening but had no luck. He got to see her that summer (summer 2010) He didn't get to see his daughter again until the summer of 2011.

While she was with us she stated she didn't want to go back to Iowa. Of course we asked why and she said it was because she didn't feel safe living with her mother, her mother's boyfriend, and the boyfriend's uncle. My husband got a lawyer in Iowa and now they are in a custody battle. Unfortunately the Iowa court did make the child go back to the mother. Even after a statement from the Guardian ad Litem saying that it was not in "the best interest of the child" to go back to the mother, and that the child would be "better served" to stay with the father.

The judge only seems to be concerned with the mother's claim that the father owed back child support, which was proven to be a false statement on her part. Court is in May 2012. My husband is doing everything he can to keep in contact with his daughter now, but they only have a cell phone at the home in Iowa, that goes straight to voicemail (that hasn't been set up) every time he calls.

We are working with the lawyer to get information together, but seeing as my husband doesn't know much about the mother except that she was married to another man at the time he was seeing her in 1999. We don't know where to go from here. We are hoping there is someone else out there that might have gone through this that can maybe guide us in a direction to help this child. Me being a mother of 4, I really don't believe she is being taken care of the way she should. With that being said being a bad mother is totally different from being an unfit mother.

Does anyone have advice or know of a case where a mother was married to another man, put that man on the birth certificate. Didn't tell the man she was married to that he was not the father (her mother did), divorced him, he got a DNA test in March 2008 and in Aug 2008 she came to the bio father and told him 8 years later he was a dad?

I know it all sounds very crazy, and there is a lot of lying and drama going on in this case. But thanks for any and all help!!!