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[I must now declare my child missing! I have not spoken to him or his custodial "acting as parent"in FOUR MONTHS]

I must now declare my child missing! I have not spoken to him or his custodial "acting as parent"in FOUR MONTHS I checked and he no longer attends the school he was at. I dont have a cell number or place of employment for the custodial aunt. I have contacted parent help and child find of america to assist me. So he is missing, yet I have no evidence he is missing from custodial aunt's family.Could this be a case of family abduction?     The cell number i was given to contact him 2 years ago no longer is a working number. So it seems,as far as I am concerned, my 14 year old child,along with his custodial aunt and her family have just dropped off the face of the earth     So this is like,how can I report him missing if I dont know he is missing from her family? Well,they could have put him up for adoption again,so I have registered with the Virginia Putative Father registry,just in case they have done so. I am no longer a putative father,had a DNA test a long time ago proving I'm his real Dad. Any advice?? Should I file a missing persons report even though I dont live in his state,that is,if he is still in that state? I mean,he has been in VA and I am in Florida,so I'm not sure what to do. Please help. thank you

I have always gone to my local DCSE=Department of Child Support Enforcement and asked for a printout history all the way back to when the case began. They track every penny paid. Hope that helps.

The FBI could be the ones spreading the virus! GASP! Oh,you mean Government is not good? Oh my,what a concept! WAKE UP!

[I must now declare my child missing! I have not spoken to him or his custodial "acting as parent"in FOUR MONTHS]

I must now declare my child missing! I have not spoken to him or his custodial "acting as parent"in FOUR MONTHS I checked and he no longer attends the school he was at. I dont have a cell number or place of employment for the custodial aunt. I have contacted parent help and child find of america to assist me. So he is missing, yet I have no evidence he is missing from custodial aunt's family.Could this be a case of family abduction?     The cell number i was given to contact him 2 years ago no longer is a working number. So it seems,as far as I am concerned, my 14 year old child,along with his custodial aunt and her family have just dropped off the face of the earth     So this is like,how can I report him missing if I dont know he is missing from her family? Well,they could have put him up for adoption again,so I have registered with the Virginia Putative Father registry,just in case they have done so. I am no longer a putative father,had a DNA test a long time ago proving I'm his real Dad. Any advice?? Should I file a missing persons report even though I dont live in his state,that is,if he is still in that state? I mean,he has been in VA and I am in Florida,so I'm not sure what to do. Please help. thank you

Hey Tigger,
       Thanks. The last time I talked with my son was 3 months ago when he called me on Dec.25,2011.
        He told me he was going to Pennsylvania,but gave me no details. I dont know if it was just for the holidays or if it was a move.When I call and send him text and voice messages I never get a response. This has been going on for too long now.I asked CPS for help and they told me there was nothing they could do.I bet they would do something real fast if it was a male who had custody of him and no one had heard from him in three months.That bias just glares at me big time. Anyway,I dont know where he is,I dont know if he is safe,I dont know if he has ran away or if he is still alive?? So I am gonna call Polly Klass because I dont know if he is missing or not. I know he is missing from my life, but I am his father and let me complain that people have no good reason to cut me off from my child and withold information from me.I am his father who cares about him or else I would not be trying to contact him. Why is everyone in this country so uptight and paranoid about one another?? The custodial Aunt has no right or reason to put me through all this anxiety just because she can.you know,for the hell of it,who cares? Who knows,it could be a case of family abduction!! That's just it,I dont know anything and Im getting tired of being kept in the dark by an alienating third party custodial so called parent!

Check this out. I  called my childs school asked to speak with him the secretary told me cant talk to him cause im not on contact list. Then I asked for principle but instead they put me thru to his special ed teacher who told me he no longer goes there.why I asked was he kicked out? No she says he did well here. She said she will call me back with more info...am I being lied to about my son? Why did the secretary talk as if he were still there?

how can I find out if she's drawing SSI off of my child?

  Thanks,everyone. About the court order: In October of 2010 the courts awarded her sole legal and physical custody. I missed that court date because it was not served on my address until after I moved,so I didn't know about it. According to her,I dont have any rights,and since she has sole custody,she sees herself as judge,jury and executioner of my relationship with my son.She says I dont have any rights,but she is wrong about that.My parental rights were never terminated,and I was never taken to court and charged with neglect.The CPS worker told me herself that this was a civil matter and that of course I could visit my son. So this Aunt has basically over ruled the courts and the CPS and she has personally terminated my parental rights on her own without good cause and for no good reason other than to be in control and to spite me.You see,the court order says NOTHING about me or visitation on it,because I was not there like I should have been.So she has filled in the blanks on the court order and put herself in place of  the Judge.Do you follow what I am saying? Now, I am homeless and unemployed,I'm on food stamps and medicaid,I have a lawyer working on getting me Disability and you know that takes a long time.But when I get the SSDI award,that is when I can give her and my son a chunk of change and start the child support payments.You know,when she took him in,for some strange reason she did not pursue collecting child support and that was before I lost my job.I know I still have a moral and legal obligation to pay child support,and i have every intention to do so.But I cant right now because Im in a terrible place of waiting to get through all this red tape at social security. I mean,I am really poor to the point I'm living on the streets and have to go find charity to get something to eat.So is she punishing me for not paying child support by cutting me off from my son? Should my relationship with my own son be destroyed because I am poor,disabled and unemployed,waiting for my lawyer to finish my case so I can send them some money? I think I might call CPS and report her for child abuse,because when she terminates our relationship by cutting off all communication and turns him against me, to the point he is scared to show any affection or goodwill towards me because it would incur her wrath upon him,that is out and out child abuse on her part.And I have had enough of this! She's taken it too far and is treading all over me.I left Va because it was fight or flight,and I decided it would be in his best interest for me NOT to go start fighting with her in front of him. But now,I'm not so sure.

(1) An intervention team,a psychologist,and the CPS removed my child from my home on a false charge of neglect.
     This was all voluntary on my part. He is a special ed student with severe emotional problems.I never neglected him.As a matter of fact,I did just the opposite,taking custody of him when his own biological mother abandoned him at age 17 months when she dropped the baby off at his grandmother's house forever and she never came back.I did all I could possibly do with my son and got to the point that I lost control of him, he had problems I could not solve and and unmet needs that I could never meet,such as needing a family and a strong mother figure.I could not be a mother and an entire family to him. I was relieved that his Aunt cared enough to be a strong mother figure which is exactly what he needed.Unfortunately,his Aunt does not like me because I just happen to be her sister's [her sister is the bio-mom who rejected my son at age 17 months] ex boyfriend.
(2) The child did not move out of state. All of this happened in Virginia. I moved out of state from Va.to Florida.
I was fighting with his Aunt because she refused to bring him over for visitation without good cause and for no good reason other than to spite me and alienate him against me further. Me and that Aunt of his are about to butt heads big time,so I thought it would be better for him to not see us fight so much.So I left but have tyred to stay in touch with him,as long as el jerko would not interfere.
(3) The mother? She lives in yet another state,and has permanently rejected her baby son who is now 14 living with her sister.
(4) Steps to take? I dont know how to work out a lonng distance visitation with him without starting world war 3 with his aunt.It's a hornet's nest,ya know.
(5) Jurisdiction? I think Virginia,but I'm not sure.
(6) Yes,I used to have sole legal and physical custody of him for 11 years and i made the bio mom pay child support to me .that is why she hates my guts.

Here's the deal: I don't have time to type out the life history here,so there are going to be some blanks,but feel free to ask any questions you may have,because I really want to see my son,and I need some advice about how to approach this "Hornet's Nest".  He lives with his Aunt [mother's side] in Virginia. I live in Florida. He has lived there for about two years.[by the way,I had sole custody of him ever since he was 17 months old until he was 11,but that's another story,dont have time here]The first year,visitation was no problem and he would come and spend every weekend all weekend long with me,that was in 2010. This changed drastically in 2011. In 2011 the Aunt,who now has sole legal and physical custody has repeatedly denied me visitation,alienated my child against me,and finally she has cut off all communication. How can I visit and talk to my son? Even the courts would never be this extreme as to cut off all contact WITHOUT CAUSE. She claims I have no rights. But I do. I need a visitation order.I dont have one.