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Thanks Kitty and everyone else. I really appreciate you guys taking time to offer suggestions.

@Ocean, that is indeed what I intend to do. Thanks!

Thanks, Kitty, I welcome all non biased opinions because I try to look at it from each side. I am available on those Fridays, however, am unable to drop them off at his home. I leave work (I work north), pick up both kids from their after school activities and will be at home by the time he arrives. If I were to travel back up north to drop them off at his home, that then becomes an equal driving distance. The argument of "equal drive time" has been a constant issue. Another suggestion would be to meet at a central location at a later time, which I suggested, and he did not agree to that. I suspect the issue here is that he doesn't want to sit in traffic on a Friday evening, as a Sunday drive would be no traffic. This has been an issue for 4 years, I have emails to support that. I have emails that contain interesting words, lol, of course, I save all of them.

Thanks, Simplydad. That's been the problem, agreeing. The divorce decree does not state anything about who provides transportation. Not sure if we can get a mediator to help sort this out. I feel like this is an issue we should be able to decide on without getting the court involved. I know there are many parents that have way bigger issues than this. It's hard trying to compromise with someone that wants their way. There have been phone conversations with our 15 year old about how the schedule doesn't accomodate him. Not sure what to do beyond compromising.

Been divorced for 4 years, our agreement outlines that dad has the kids every other weekend, does not state who provides transportation. Previously, he would pick the kids up from my home and drop them off at my home. During that time, if we needed to change pick up/drop off locations, we would.

He started to provide me a schedule of dates that he was available to have the kids, told me that if he wanted to change the agreement at any time, he would. He got remarried last year, moved approx 34 miles away, started the argument of having to drive so far. During this time, he changed the agreement, reduced the visitation from Thurs to Sun to Fri to Sun. He would have our daughter every other Wed, that changed. Visitation began to become very inconsistent. He and his wife had a baby last year, that meant another change. I agreed to meet him halfway on the Fridays, he would continue to drop them off at my home on Sundays.

Fast forward to February 2012. I moved, actually closer in,  and I am getting married in April. I sent an email saying that I moved and now instead of dropping off at my home on Sundays, we can meet at a neutral location both Fridays and Sundays. This has become a battle. I am now agreeing to share transportation and he has resorted to not picking the kids up at all. He didn't see them for 2 months, saying that I am denying him visitation. I sent him an email on Monday, this is the only way we communicate, giving my suggestions of pick up/drop off locations: He picks them up from my home or a location near my home on Fridays, I can pick them up on Sundays from his home or a location near his home.

No agreement, he wants to pickup from my home on Fridays instead. Due to my work schedule and location, I am unable to do this, I explained this in an email to him. I figured a compromise would be me driving to his side of town on Sundays. No agreement. I received an email today saying "refer to my formal notice". Not sure what a formal notice is and not sure what I should do about it.

Please help. I am sorry for the long email but I feel that this is such a tiny issue that can be worked out between the two of us. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thanks!