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Hello!  There was no final judgment done  on my case but a minor's counsel was ordered.  Baby daddy was ordered again to find a job as the judge said,"You have been looking for a job for a very long time."  Judge also ordered to remove our child from  Medi-cal and continue to utilize the private insurance I have for her,  which was a very good news for me because our daughter will now avail of the various benefits catered for her autism.  Minor counsel will also investigate his living condition including his 18 year old daughter still sleeping in the same bed with him.  It was a major concern for the judge, he said this should been reported to CPS.....(i didn't know it was that severe). 

So far, this was an experience and hoping members here will learn something.  We will again appear in court in January.

I am very relieved that the judge did not order any child support and I have a positive view about next hearing that I will be granted with more days so I can bring her to the autism programs.

Thank you to those who advised me to ask for a court order for the dad to provide  a separate bed or room for my daughter. 

This is so touching.  This is also happening to me now.  So many restrictions from her dad.  On Halloween, he broke the CO again.  Wish me luck on my next court hearing.

The hearing was not on the same week as her OT appointment. From what he had done before, this is how he plays his game all the time. Yes, that was his time with her. But her insurance only takes appointments M-F. I have her every other weekend on school days. Somehow this isn't a very critical therapy but OT trains her on tasting different food and assess her on chewing. My daughter tends to swallow and not chew certain soft foods. There's no urgency tho but he will control this situation again in the future. Right now, I am just being patient until I will be granted with more days then I can make her appointments during my time with her. I will be glad to give u guys updates on our custody hearing soon.

Today was my child support hearing that the BD filed.  Everything turned out so well.  My lawyer's request for continuance to the upcoming child support hearing in a month was granted. 

I think I have a good chance to get more time with my daughter.  i have all the declarations and proofs how he manifested uncooperativeness and manipulation of the school system and yet, never applied for a job when the CO in April told him to do so. 

One question that he did last week, he cancelled our daughter's Occupational therapy appointment and left me a message saying,"I cancelled the appointment bec. of the court hearings we have".  I have his voicemail recorded in my phone.  Again,  I could have taken our daughter instead.  His reason was shallow obviously and this is just one example of who am I dealing with, all the time.  I stopped arguing with him bec it'll only make it worse.  I will wait for our child custody hearing.  Is this a good proof of his uncooperativeness as a parent? 

I think the advice of ordering a separate bed is on target.

I'm not experienced with autism.....so I would tread carefully in labeling this situation.

Add to that that they split 4 months ago.....

Long term, separate bedROOMS.  Short term....separate beds due to the age and sex difference.

But beyond that -- folks, be careful.  k?

Thank you for all the input.  This helped me a lot.

So I have received a note form my lawyer saying that he's waiting for the court's response with the required mediation date before he can submit my Request for Orders.  Do you have any idea how many weeks or months for this mediation date to process?  I am in California.  I am very anxious.  Since the baby daddy filed for child support with the CSSD when he got denied during the first hearing we got in April, my lawyer said he will likely ask for the continuance so that the child support issue can be settled concurrently with the child custody and visitation issue.  Basing on your experience, what can likely to  happen?  Do you think I will be ordered to pay for child support even before the child custody hearing? 

Thank you very much.  This was a great help.

Then he should be able to bring the paperwork when we go back to court. If not, what can happen?

My exboyfriend whom we have a 4 year old is running a child care business in his apartment and it is unlicensed.  The court ordered him to have it registered in April and the judge gave him six months, which will be October, or find a full time job.  Up to this time, he is still running it, taking care of 4-5 children without liability insurance or probably the apartment manager knows but is just allowing it until something happens. 

What is the liability of the apartment manager regarding this?  How can I make a report on this as well? 

[Here we go. My situation and court order in April, my ex has our daughter on school days and I have her every other weekend. This becomes the opposite on summer. We have joint legal custody. She attends school 24 miles away from me. She's 4, has mild autism and in a special ed class. We are in CA. Now this AM, I went to school and gave my daughter kisses and hugs before her school started and I left for work. Half an hour later, I received a text from him stating I am not supposed to be there and he will instruct the school to kick me out when I go. I responded to his immaturity that unless a court order will tell me that I am not allowed to go and see her in school, I will be there whenever I can. Since school started, he never returned my call for me to speak with our daughter, he said I would have to wait until my weekend to come. This is his game ever since. He is a sociopath. Extremely manipulative. He continued his rants thru texts and I never responded. I know he's not making any sense and I know my rights. When our daughter started school in March of this year, he informed me he included me in the paperwork for school. He did not even informed me of the parents orientation and good thing I called. He was very mad when I was there that day, gave the school district a copy of the court order that we have joint legal custody and I needed to be updated with all things from now on. in her paperwork at school, I discovered that he wrote down: Mother's address: "don't know". Mother's phone number: "none". Anyhow, I straightened this up and gave them my whole info. Is this a form of parental alienation? If so or not, how should I handle this situation? i have a lawyer and I am just waiting for him to gather everything up and file. But I wanna know more about this through all the experiences of forum members here.]

Here we go.  My situation and court order in April, my ex has our daughter on school days and I have her every other weekend.  This becomes the opposite on summer.  We have joint legal custody.  She attends school 24 miles away from me.  She's 4, has mild autism and in a special ed class.  We are in CA. 

Now this AM, I went to school and gave my daughter kisses and hugs before her school started and I left for work.  Half an hour later, I received a text from him stating I am not supposed to be there and he will instruct the school to kick me out when I go.  I responded to his immaturity that unless a court order will tell me that I am not allowed to go and see her in school, I will be there whenever I can.  Since school started, he never returned my call for me to speak with our daughter, he said I would have to wait until my weekend to come. This is his game ever since.  He is a sociopath.  Extremely manipulative.  He continued his rants thru texts and I never responded.  I know he's not making any sense and I know my rights. 

When our daughter started school in March of this year, he informed me he included me in the paperwork for school.  He did not even informed me of the parents orientation and good thing I called.  He was very mad when I was there that day, gave the school district a copy of the court order that we have joint legal custody and I needed to be updated with all things from now on.  in her paperwork at school, I discovered that he wrote down: Mother's address:  "don't know".  Mother's phone number: "none".  Anyhow, I straightened this up and gave them my whole info.  Is this a form of parental alienation?  If so or not,  how should I handle this situation?  i have a lawyer and I am just waiting for him to gather everything up and file.  But I wanna know more about this through all the experiences of forum members here.