They said i cannot get an adjustment for 3 years...only my ex can ask for one and me be able to add my daughter to it....and my fiance cant get cs because its our daughter so that wouldnt work.
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Child Support Issues / Re: Child support more than I can afford/Never even seen my child!!
Oct 04, 2012, 09:44:29 PM #2
Child Support Issues / Re: Child support more than I can afford/Never even seen my child!!
Oct 04, 2012, 07:43:29 PM
yes they showed how they figured it all out...since i work construction and dont have a steady income and also i was in between jobs, they set it at 7.25hr x 40hrs x 52 weeks....then she got deductions for another child she had with another man and daycare.
I have emailed her numerous times asking to work something out and she wont reply. As far as seeing my son, well i live hours away from her and cant afford to take off work even one day a week. I want to get joint custody so i can see him, but now he is 7years old and i feel like it may hurt him more than help him for me to jump into his life now. My ex is very immature and would trash talk me to him, and i am very honest and believe the truth needs to be told and telling him the truth would make her look bad and i dont want to do that.
I just need to find a way to get child support lowered or dropped so i dont lose my everything ive built for my new family!
I set up payments of 200 a month for 3 months and after that i have to pay the 366 and another 150 in arears (or however it is spelled) and the lady said once i get below 2500 i could just make whatever payment i could afford a month even if it was just 100 and then they couldnt suspend my license or arrest me. Is that true? I have been told by the first 2 people i talked to that it wasnt and now this lady says it is...someone is lying to me!
I have emailed her numerous times asking to work something out and she wont reply. As far as seeing my son, well i live hours away from her and cant afford to take off work even one day a week. I want to get joint custody so i can see him, but now he is 7years old and i feel like it may hurt him more than help him for me to jump into his life now. My ex is very immature and would trash talk me to him, and i am very honest and believe the truth needs to be told and telling him the truth would make her look bad and i dont want to do that.
I just need to find a way to get child support lowered or dropped so i dont lose my everything ive built for my new family!
I set up payments of 200 a month for 3 months and after that i have to pay the 366 and another 150 in arears (or however it is spelled) and the lady said once i get below 2500 i could just make whatever payment i could afford a month even if it was just 100 and then they couldnt suspend my license or arrest me. Is that true? I have been told by the first 2 people i talked to that it wasnt and now this lady says it is...someone is lying to me!
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Child Support Issues / Child support more than I can afford/Never even seen my child!!
Oct 04, 2012, 01:11:18 PM
Hi, im a 30 year old male from Missouri. 7 years ago me and my girlfriend found out we were pregnant, she left me around 4 months along (for no reason except her parents didnt like me) and told me to never contact her and i would never be able to see my child!
After trying to contact her for several months I was finally told by her friend she had an abortion and to leave her alone. Well that broke my heart and messed me up in so many ways! About 8 months later i found out she didnt have an abortion and that i had a son! I was so happy, I tried writing her only to get horrible responses. She said she wanted nothing to do with me and my son would have nothing to do with me. I offered money, assistance, etc only to be told that she didnt want anything from me.
Well I had no money to get a lawyer so i did what I thought was best and just tried to move on. It was horrible and it put me into a place i didnt wanna be, but 5 years later i met a girl who changed my life, no we have our own little girl (7 weeks old) and things were going great, when outta nowhere i get an order for child support!
I had to take a paternity test and he was mine. They wanted 306 a month which is waaay more than we can afford. Im working construction and its not always steady and have a mortgage, gas, electric, cell phone, internet, car payments and insurance, and now baby stuff and my income doesnt even cover the bills we have.
So i asked to modify it and they ended up raising it up higher to 366 a month!
I just could not afford that at all. Im not a dead beat dad, i love my son very much and would die for him at the drop of a dime, she took him from me and never allowed me to be there, took away my rights and now they want me to pay her for that?
Well i couldnt afford it and now im about 3000 in the hole and they are going to suspend my license then send me to jail. If that happens, I lose my job, vehicles, house, and family...and more importantly, the people relying on me will lose everything! So basically my son (who i cannot even see) is being raised by his mother just fine without my support, and the gov is going to arrest me, in turn not only taking away the chance of payment toward him but no putting my daughter and fiance on the streets...so they are ruining two other innocent lives!
How is this fair and what can i do!!!??? Im at ends wit here, im just lost!
I want to file for joint custody of him but dont know how without a lawyer and i have no money or anyone to borrow from! Please if anyone could give me some advice....do i have no other option but to lose everything and make my daughter grow up without a father all because my ex wants money?
After trying to contact her for several months I was finally told by her friend she had an abortion and to leave her alone. Well that broke my heart and messed me up in so many ways! About 8 months later i found out she didnt have an abortion and that i had a son! I was so happy, I tried writing her only to get horrible responses. She said she wanted nothing to do with me and my son would have nothing to do with me. I offered money, assistance, etc only to be told that she didnt want anything from me.
Well I had no money to get a lawyer so i did what I thought was best and just tried to move on. It was horrible and it put me into a place i didnt wanna be, but 5 years later i met a girl who changed my life, no we have our own little girl (7 weeks old) and things were going great, when outta nowhere i get an order for child support!
I had to take a paternity test and he was mine. They wanted 306 a month which is waaay more than we can afford. Im working construction and its not always steady and have a mortgage, gas, electric, cell phone, internet, car payments and insurance, and now baby stuff and my income doesnt even cover the bills we have.
So i asked to modify it and they ended up raising it up higher to 366 a month!
I just could not afford that at all. Im not a dead beat dad, i love my son very much and would die for him at the drop of a dime, she took him from me and never allowed me to be there, took away my rights and now they want me to pay her for that?
Well i couldnt afford it and now im about 3000 in the hole and they are going to suspend my license then send me to jail. If that happens, I lose my job, vehicles, house, and family...and more importantly, the people relying on me will lose everything! So basically my son (who i cannot even see) is being raised by his mother just fine without my support, and the gov is going to arrest me, in turn not only taking away the chance of payment toward him but no putting my daughter and fiance on the streets...so they are ruining two other innocent lives!
How is this fair and what can i do!!!??? Im at ends wit here, im just lost!
I want to file for joint custody of him but dont know how without a lawyer and i have no money or anyone to borrow from! Please if anyone could give me some advice....do i have no other option but to lose everything and make my daughter grow up without a father all because my ex wants money?
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