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our order says summers and holidays as the parties can agree upon... there is no set times or days .... things  have been amicable till now as long as i show up when and where they want me too. (mostly his wife because she does all the planning and expects me to follow their schedule)

My ex hasn't physically seen his kids in almost two years (he is in another place far away due to work). He is coming home this for a short time and is going all over the place to visit other people and travel. He wants to see his children over a weekend (coming up very soon) I worked with him over the thurs... me compromising, he had told me he wanted to return them Sunday... that was the plan from the beginning, now he says suddenly he would like them till weds or  Sunday i could pick them up...Well since he had told me Sunday from the get go my husband and i made appointments and such (on his other day off from his job). My exs new wife and i DON'T (drama from my point of view on her end and i wont deal with it anymore) get along (she is constantly butting in with our kids.. making derogatory remarks to other people about me (that part doesn't involve the kids) but telling my kids things that they don't need to hear) since hes been away "he hasn't driven in a while and doesn't think he'd be able to" she is refusing as she is the transportation to bring them back on Monday as she has to work a couple hours "and doesn't feel like driving" there have been plenty of times my husband has worked and then picked up and drove the kids after. I am just tired of them trying to dictate to me when and where I have to be and there being NO compromise on their and and just demanding. I AM NOT not willing to share my kids or give them time with their father.... this would be only the second time in fourish years i have told him NO or said well if you cant compromise... I'm just so lost. I cant always be the one because of their poor planning to stop not only my life but the kids life because he wants to come see them. before anyone goes judging me i do a lot to help "foster" a relationship (yes i know my word, just saying though) we are the ones one our end constantly saying hey you want to talk to your kids because he spends all but like ten minutes on the comp with another person. write letters when he cant be on video from the kids etc.

we have a 9 year old and a 6 year old.

Feel free to ask questions if you need clarification... I truly care about this and don't want it to be misconstrued I am probably not writing clearly as I am stressed out write now and very frustrated.