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My initial post was regarding tips on how to prove I deserve sole legal and physical custody on paper - since I am already doing that, and have been doing so alone. How we got to where we are is irrelevant. If he wants to be involved in her life in our home state (not his) - that's wonderful, but I will be the one to make her medical and educational decisions. That is my only concern at this point. Reasons for his silence are of no consequence to me.

He stopped speaking to me, and I was respecting his decision. He did know that I was pregnant and keeping the baby. He's not convinced that he is the father, but I am. All of that would be irrelevant pertinent to a custody case. No one bothers with he said, she said.

I don't care about the [child support] money - I just want it on paper that I have legal and physical custody. He is welcomed to visit/contact us as often as he wants. I will happily comply with a paternity test if he sees fit.

I am 16 hours away from her father. I am requesting sole legal and physical custody. I don't care about the child support money... that only came into play because we are receiving the child care subsidy, so the state follows through. As far as I am concerned, he can call, e-mail or visit us here in her home state whenever he wants. I haven't heard from him in almost a year (since before she was born). He may not want anything in court - that has yet to be seen.  I got the ball rolling on this [custody] process to avoid any complications in the future.

I do work, and she is in a step 4, nationally accredited early learning center (he wouldn't even know what that means). We have daily routines and significant connections with people here already established. It infuriates me to no end that he could get a say in anything or make me meet him 1/2 way as he literally has done NOTHING!!!!

I live in one state, my daughter's father lives in another. We were never married and haven't spoken since May of last year. She was born in December (in our current state, not where she was conceived). I want sole parental rights & responsibilities. He's never put forth the effort to contact me or her. How can I ensure I get custody? I have no problem if he wants to come here to visit her, but he has not earned the right for any say regarding medical care or education. Papers have already been filed. It's a waiting game at this point... Any advice?