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Okay Thank You, I wasn't sure which topic this fell under.

We were never married and the father works in a different state and he lives with his mother in another school district.
He also signed the paternity paper work at the hospital when our son was born so our son could have his name on the birth certificate.

I recently filed for child support last week and they served my son's father with the paper work this past weekend.
Him and his family have been talking to my family and friends about me making a big mistake and taking my son away from me.

We've been split up for two years now and my son is 7.

I have been at my job for 2.5 years as a LPN. I work 11pm-7am Monday - Wednesday Night and I work a double on Sundays 3pm-11pm 11pm-7am. His father picks him up every other weekend Friday- 7pm and returns him Sunday- 2pm. My grandmother watches my son from 10:30pm- 7:15am while I am at work (it takes me 15 mins to drive from work to her house) she's been watching him since his dad moved out 2 years ago (the only thing she requires is that i buy his food roughly which is $40 a week it includes breakfast when he wakes up and his snack for school)

When his dad moved out. He moved in with his new girlfriend (he lives with his mom now) and he was unwilling to keep my son anymore at night(his- decision not mine) he did agree to keep spending time with him every other weekend (this has been the arraignment for 2 years- this is the only time he see's our son 2 weekends a month).

My question is can I lose Custody because I work night shift? 4 night on 3 night off

I've literally done everything that my son has needed for his entire life. I've been to every doctors appointment, dentist visit, supervised school trip, basketball game + practice, teacher conference, and every trip to the principle office when he's in trouble (his father has been to none). I am also awake when he gets home from school and i do homework with him for hours (he's being evaluated for dyslexia by a psychologist and i take him to all those appointments too) I feed him, send him to take a bath, and i even put him to sleep every night before i leave for work (School Ends at 3pm- I leave for work at 10:45pm),  When i return from work at 7:15 i help him get dress and i take him to the bus stop -- i try to sleep while he's in school (only if he doesn't have any appointments or school trips).

I needed extra support (which is why i filed for child support) I live on my own and he's getting bigger and he's gonna eat me out of house and home soon.  I don't qualify for assistance I make $40.00 over the income limit. His dad doesn't give me anything financially - he does provide a pair of sneakers or clothes every 6 months if i ask for it.

I don't want to lose custody of my son and i think it selfish for him to try to get out of paying child support. He works in another state the he commutes to work every day and he isn't going to be able to provide my son with the one on one care that he needs.