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My boyfriend is getting ready to go in for mediation in a couple weeks, he has been fighting his ex for custody for nine months now and so far, neither he or his ex are budging on anything. They live in separate states so visitation is going to end up being based on school year (is my guess anyway). He has a better support system for him and his son here and it is genuinely just a better environment for his son to be raised in. The problem that seems to be coming up is with the personality of both him and his ex, both very stubborn, and I think their hatred for one another is really the only thing that is keeping this from settling. Is there any advice that anyone can give me to help the situation? I told him to maybe go for custody and have him during the school year and allow her to have him during the summer, as well as come to Utah once every few months for a week to take him. His statement back to me was that she will realize that she has to pay for all these flights for visitation, so I told him to offer to split the cost, and he said no because he doesn't want to do anything to help her. I also told him that by getting hung up on small details then he's going to make himself look bad. Financially, he's in a better position than she is, and our plan is to get a home and get married, which at that point, our dual income is significantly more than what she will probably ever make, so to be hung up on finances is bad in my opinion.