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The child is eight years old. He was pulled out of school by his mother to be home schooled, however there has been no real record showing that. I am not out of the states, I just travel from state to state. There was no issue as far as visitation until very recently when I landed a better job. We communicated, dates and times, and there was video calling when I was away at work. She has declined child support for years. As far as reason goes to remove the child, I would state that I can provide a better life. One where they do not go hunger, and have clothes that fit. She has a history of violence, even being arrested for DV against me. She is on medications for her mental state but has stopped taking them.  There is an excess of alcohol present, and while I cant confirm, I suspect possible drug use.  The state of the home is deplorable whenever I would pick the child up.

A bit of back ground is in order I suppose. My child's mother who my child stays with, declined child support years ago. My understanding is she has been collecting benefits by stating she doesn't know where I am, however I have proof where she has brought my child to me over the course of years. My work has me travel and I am away for months at a time. Recently, things have been much better for me as I landed a job that is above what I normally make. I made a post showing how my life had improved over the previous year and now she has refused contact between my child and I until child support is paid, and a visitation order in place. She is telling my child  that the reason I am not contacting them is because I refuse to do as she wants. She lives in KY and I am currently working abroad. I wish to file for custody because I can provide a better life, both mentally and physically for my child. Please help!!! The average percent of fathers with custody is less then 20%, so I fear that unless I come fully prepared, I have a snowballs chance of being able to provide my child with the life they deserve. I just don't know where to turn.