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not knowing the process of this appeal, & if my ex does not have to be present as she was not before, i dont know how i will cross examine the doctor who mentions add in the med notes. the attty told me the judge may not allow it. in fact, this doctor appears to keep my son on ritalin because of a prior dr's prescription. i have to find out who the prior dr was & it wont be easy.
would you recommend i subpoena her ? what questions would you ask the dr? i will call her shortly, but does she have to speak to me ?

i will also call the school counselor that oversees my son's job training. what questions would you advise to ask him? remembering, he is the opponent ...

 

im trying to read the records sent to me, & its complicated & lots of discrepancies. says my son was on ritalin inconsistently due to mom inconsistently purchasing it. the conference officer in her decision to grant support,  said that the dr states child had a.d.d. & a learning disability unidentified since 1995. im not sure what that means, but how is something unidentified from a certain time period until just prior to turning 18.  is this coincidental or do you think theres some back-noting to make this sound "legal" per the dsm you mentioned ...
records show his IQ is quite high & decent grades for some time.

thats very interesting... i wonder if the judge will buy that. i will look on the net for that manual.
there were never problems exhibited or medically notated until she moved to fl.
thanks

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can you site the case law so i can take a look
thanks

also, i will try to call ss today & see if theyll release info on my son.
thanks

thanks for replies.. i sent you a pm.

dont know about ssd for son- heard that she tried for it in the past. she does know how to work the system - done it for years & tried to apply for each of my kids (see what im dealing with ?).

i am shocked by the ease of acceptance for disability benefits for adhd ! i know several people w/adhd/add & im sure a good 1/3 of the schools' enrollment has it. they function fine - some w/o medication.  i cant believe its considered a "disability". ive worked w truly disabled kids & adults - i know the difference. obvioulsy, there must be a money trail in it too.

as far as her working - who should i report it to all at once ? SS has already been notified but who knows if anything was done. they didnt ask me to provide verification, so it doesnt sound like they care much. & if its anything like welfare, theres more in it for them to maintain the benefits.  if its under the table, it cant be proved.

any ideas on how to find out more about if shes working ? apparently theres no system in place that cross checks her, like it does for me .

thanks

thanks - i dont doubt socs advice... i was just told to post to general forum to see if any additnl feedback matches my experience.
ill try that site  also

Hi. i live in PA. i am an ncp & my ex & son live in FL. As i was about to terminate support due to my son turning 18 recently, my ex petitioned for continuance of cs stating that my son has developed adhd. i was never aware of this prior, & my ex had cut off contact years ago w/my son - she even changed my sons name w/o my knowledge.

despite years of her violating the custody order, i may see him once a year for limited time at most. ex had also tried extending support w/my previous kids while in high school but lost

At the hearing here in PA, my ex phoned in from FL. she was not prepared nor had any documents faxed to the hearing. however, she was granted 2 extra weeks to come up w/data. this data was not revealed to me & the officer ruled in her favor.

info from school & police that i have recently received is restricted. this alternative "school" shows many discrepancies re add/adhd notes & has him in on the job training, w/little focus on academics, allows him independent study towards a ged; my son works close to full time & earns wages. the school keeps referring to this as 'special' diploma & much talk of 'iep's'. i don't know if he's classified as disabled, impaired, or what and the goals listed are non-educational & they project graduation in 4 yrs.

info reveals some notes from physican about adhd & about being on and off ritalin years due to refusal of mom to purchase it consistently.

info reveals that my ex is working while she is collecting SSD.

also, for what its worth, my son was conceived during my ex's affair . after we separated/divorced she had boasted that i was paying for someone else's son. for yrs attorneys advised me against disputing it & testing him saying it would get me nowhere but more in debt.

meantime, my savings for my current toddler's schooling will be depleted to support an adult. my adult son has been in constant trouble w/the police in his area & has always had a troubled life w/his mom.

lastly, my wages have been garnished for the most recent decision. however, at a recent closing, the proceeds were again tagged by the state for a duplicate garnishment. the local dr office says basically too bad.

I have appealed & am awaiting date for denovo hearing but attorney doesnt seem confident -am desperate for good atty.

again, this is in PA... could would you advise me on any issue here

1- what are my rights to paternity fraud testing at this stage & what do you think of pursuing it ?
2- what can be done about my ex working while collecting SSD?
3- how do i find out the legitimacy of this school or this alternative program which doesn't focus on academics ?
4 how do i cross examine these claims by this doctor re:adhd? my atty says the doctor may not even have to appear nor does my ex.
5- how do i disprove that my son is not disabled by this suddent development of add/adhd if he's earning wages?
6- can you recommend how i can recover the cs money deducted in error from my proceeds at my closing ?
7- what questions can i ask an attorney to discern their ability?

thanks

>> My hotel room service bill will exceed your annual salary....<<

                     time for another zoloft.

thanks for all your time & help. ill pursue your suggestions. appreciate it!

>> then that would be grounds for a disparate impact action, under federal employment law. <<

forgot to mention, i am a white middle aged male.... not much of a protected class.  

management is also aware of the supervisory abusive behavior. you mentioned taking civil action ... at least to do it successfully i presume,

1) civil action would require an attorney, right ?

thanks