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The state our court order is in is Oklahoma.  My ex has custody and I have visitation.  In our court order it states that I am allowed access to the childrens school and daycare records.  

I currently receive report cards and progress reports from the school my child attends.

I have requested 2 times to get a copy of my child enrollment paperwork used to register my child for school. I wanted to be ensureI was listed on the paperwork as the father and as an emergency contact.  

The school and exwife have said I am not entittled to this information, and that I am only allowed to receive report cards and progress reports and had no business to the other records.


Am I allowed to have the enrollment information?

I was divorced in Oklahoma. When my ex and I divorced I talked to several attorneys in that county and they all said the same thing....one gets custody and the other gets visiation....there was no shared parenting or even joint legal.
My ex has custody. She has jerked me around on visitation by denying me and taking off with the kids. I filed contempt and for a custody reversal, attorney said its unlikely that I would get it for the first contempt but we had to start somewhere. The judge fined her, and gave me a heck of a lot bettier visiation schedule than I had. He also much to mine and my attorneys surprise ordered that all transportation be split 50/50...meaning I would get them and she would pick themup unless we agreed otherwise in writing. I am in the military so I was theone who moved....due to military assignement so her attorney fought it, but the judge said he wasn't going to punish me by making me do all the transporation since I didnt willingly relocate and that she married had children and divorced me all while I was in the military.
Our order also says that the visiation schedule is at a minimum and that extra visitation in encouraged. Everytime I ask for something extra she says no....then has had the nerve to send them off to her parents for a week at a time....the same week I have asked for. When I asked my attorney he explained that she can legally do this on her time, and that when she had the kids she could do what she wanted and when I had the kids I could do what I wanted and if either disagreed that much we woudl have to take it to court.
Ok so when the kids were with me for 8 weekd during the summer I had to go TDY for 1 week. I left the children with my wife and parents (kids grandparents) she told me she wouldnt allow this and I had to return them to her.
There is no Right of First Resual in our order and it says nothing about 3rd parties.
Am I not allowed to do this.?

Thank you for the support...I know many are dealing with this.

I guess I am just concerned that legally she can take the kids from my wife if I have to leave them in her care.

yes, my wife and I have a child together and they have step siblings as well.

I would love to do that but my ex will not work with me at all.  The week I was gone was during my summer visitation which was a total of 8 weeks.  
Applying your thinking if she isnt going to be with the kids shouldnt they be with me?  
By the way we live 10 hours apart.
I understand what you are saying but the military doesnt work like alot of civilian jobs....you have to go when they tell you.

I was divorced in Oklahoma.  When my ex and I divorced I talked to several attorneys in that county and they all said the same thing....one gets custody and the other gets visiation....there was no shared parenting or even joint legal.  
My ex has custody.  She has jerked me around on visitation by denying me and taking off with the kids.  I filed contempt and for a custody reversal, attorney said its unlikely that I would get it for the first contempt but we had to start somewhere.  The judge fined her, and gave me a heck of a lot bettier visiation schedule than I had.  He also much to mine and my attorneys surprise ordered that all transportation be split 50/50...meaning I would get them and she would pick themup unless we agreed otherwise in writing.  I am in the military so I was theone who moved....due to military assignement so her attorney fought it, but the judge said he wasn't going to punish me by making me do all the transporation since I didnt willingly relocate and that she married had children and divorced me all while I was in the military.
Our order also says that the visiation schedule is at a minimum and that extra visitation in encouraged.  Everytime I ask for something extra she says no....then has had the nerve to send them off to her parents for a week at a time....the same week I have asked for.  When I asked my attorney he explained that she can legally do this on her time, and that when she had the kids  she could do what she wanted and when I had the kids I could do what I wanted and if either disagreed that much we woudl have to take it to court.  
Ok so when the kids were with me for 8 weekd during the summer I had to go TDY for 1 week.  I left the children with my wife and parents (kids grandparents) she told me she wouldnt allow this and I had to return them to her.
There is no Right of First Resual in our order and it says nothing about 3rd parties.
Am I not allowed to do this.?