As to your first paragraph...a couple of hundred letters were sent and probably intercepted. High school teachers were instructed (by her) to give no info when I inquired into her school record.
As to your second: Indeed my daughter is saddled with some responsibility. That makes it even harder for her to reverse the alienation...even as a grown adult. I was given no information about anything. I found her in Chicago through subtrefuge. "If she has decided..." it is because of the effectiveness of the Parental Alienation with which she was programed. When any parent alientates a child against the other parent that constitutes an insidious form of child abuse. Psychological abuse is right up there with physical abuse in it's detrimental effects. When a parent is forced to surrender their child's affection to a parent who would do such a thing it is horrendous with long-lasting emotional implications (for everyone). If the "losing" parent is a sociopath, that is different, but it is not the role of the other parent to be the sole judge to serve their own biased intolerance nor to recruit the child to support their point-of-view.
My daughter is the real loser in all this. She no longer has contact with an extended family. Getting her attention, let alone affection, again would probably require something like cult de-tox. If I thought it had a snowball's chance, I would have done it long ago. If our children were kidnapped by low-life we'd kill to get them back if it was the only way. But when they are emotionally kidnapped by the other parent we're expected to conclude "..there is not much you can do about it." There's always something. It may make matters worse but it's better than being resigned to one's childless fate for eternity. Of course that only applies to parents who genuinely love their progeny and are not merely fighting not to lose. The tears I hear in this forum of parents who've been denied is heart-rending. When adults use their children as weapons they should be stopped. Some courts do not recognize Parental Alienation as child abuse. They should.
Young Eager Breeders should be forwarned of the pros and cons of planting the seed. Little do they know... The horror stories are never-ending.
So - the question remains. What if I drove to Chicago only to have a door slammed in my face or Homeland Security called? Dangerous but admirably pro-active? Be charged with stalking only to have at least the opportunity of confronting her with the above in court? At 67, one becomes less inclined to wait resignedly for good graces to befall them.
Cheers...
BR
As to your second: Indeed my daughter is saddled with some responsibility. That makes it even harder for her to reverse the alienation...even as a grown adult. I was given no information about anything. I found her in Chicago through subtrefuge. "If she has decided..." it is because of the effectiveness of the Parental Alienation with which she was programed. When any parent alientates a child against the other parent that constitutes an insidious form of child abuse. Psychological abuse is right up there with physical abuse in it's detrimental effects. When a parent is forced to surrender their child's affection to a parent who would do such a thing it is horrendous with long-lasting emotional implications (for everyone). If the "losing" parent is a sociopath, that is different, but it is not the role of the other parent to be the sole judge to serve their own biased intolerance nor to recruit the child to support their point-of-view.
My daughter is the real loser in all this. She no longer has contact with an extended family. Getting her attention, let alone affection, again would probably require something like cult de-tox. If I thought it had a snowball's chance, I would have done it long ago. If our children were kidnapped by low-life we'd kill to get them back if it was the only way. But when they are emotionally kidnapped by the other parent we're expected to conclude "..there is not much you can do about it." There's always something. It may make matters worse but it's better than being resigned to one's childless fate for eternity. Of course that only applies to parents who genuinely love their progeny and are not merely fighting not to lose. The tears I hear in this forum of parents who've been denied is heart-rending. When adults use their children as weapons they should be stopped. Some courts do not recognize Parental Alienation as child abuse. They should.
Young Eager Breeders should be forwarned of the pros and cons of planting the seed. Little do they know... The horror stories are never-ending.
So - the question remains. What if I drove to Chicago only to have a door slammed in my face or Homeland Security called? Dangerous but admirably pro-active? Be charged with stalking only to have at least the opportunity of confronting her with the above in court? At 67, one becomes less inclined to wait resignedly for good graces to befall them.
Cheers...
BR