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We live in Ohio.  My husband has visitation order for his 11 year old son. 2 weekends ago (fri) she calls to inform us that son has mono and will not be coming to our house for visitation. 5 days later (last wed.) we found out that she had him out shopping saturday (the day after he was supposedly diagnosed with mono).  My husband called the mother and asked her why she would take him out with mono and why her new hubby or mother didn't stay with son or why we weren't called to go over and sit with him until she returned...she refused to answer any ?'s and my husband told her that she could have potentially made him worse and that he was going to find a lawyer.

 Next day we recieved a call from CPS. Day after that lady from CPS came over and told us that his son and spoken with the mother's lawyer and told him that he was afraid to go over to our house and that father was beating him.  Lady from CPS told us that her next stop was to talk to son at school, we told her that supposedly that he was sick with mono and didn't know if he was in school or not, or even how he was for that matter considering numerous calls to son's mother and doctor went unreturned. She calls back a few hours later to inform us that he was in school and that he looked perfectly fine, stuck to the story that husband was beating him but caseworker stated that his story sounded forced and scripted. Today (4/11) we recieved court papers stating that our visitation is immediately suspended until the court hearing on 4/20/06.

Papers state that mother thinks the child is being emotionally and physically damaged, and he's been afraid to be with his father for over a year now and many other numerous accusations.

His mother does not feed him properly, he always looks exhausted when we pick him up, son's grades are plummeting and she or her husband do not help him with homework, he's not allowed to have friends over from school that are his own age, his oldest friend is 7 years old.

He has told us this and many other facts such as he is not allowed to use the phone, and she was physically bathing him until 8 years old.  The step-father has reportedly called him names like "moron" and "idiot" and god knows what else...also step-father has 2 children of his own that he either chooses not to see or is not allowed to see...no one will give us information on that.



My questions are:

(1) How can we prove these allegations are false, it basically our word against hers at this point.

(2) How can we find out more about the step-father in regards to not being able to see his own children.

(3) What should we expect at court?

(4) Do we need character witnesses?

(5) What are the laws concerning visitation?  Was she legally allowed to lie about the child being sick to keep him from visiting on the last visit.

(6)  Any other helpful information you could suggest when we talk to the lawyer tomorrow morning and when we go to court.

Thank you for your time and again sorry about the way the message was posted previously.  Have a good day.

 

where are the mandatory forum guidelines...i'm sorry, like i said, i'm new to all of this

I am new to all of this, so I will try to be as clear as possible. (Might get pretty long though, sorry, I don't know all the abbreviations for the forums yet) My husband has visitation order for his 11 year old son. 2 weekends ago (fri) she calls to inform us that son has mono and will not be coming to our house for visitation. 5 days later (last wed.) we found out that she had him out shopping saturday (the day after he was supposedly diagnosed with mono) husband called the mother and asked her why she would take him out with mono and why her new hubby or mother didn't stay with son or why we weren't called to go over and sit with him until she returned...she refused to answer any ?'s and my husband told her that she could have potentially made him worse and that he was going to find a lawyer. Next day we recieved a call from CPS. Day after that lady from CPS came over and told us that his son and spoken with the mother's lawyer and told him that he was afraid to go over to our house and that father was beating him...shock to us because we've never laid a hand on him (mainly b/c son's mother is always looking for an excuse to keep son from my husband). Lady from CPS told us that her next stop was to talk to son at school, we told her that supposedly that he was sick with mono and didn't know if he was in school or not, or even how he was for that matter considering numerous calls to son's mother and doctor went unreturned. We asked her that if he was in school if she could call us to let us know because we were concerned that we had not heard from anyone as to his condition. She calls back a few hours later to inform us that he was in school and that he looked perfectly fine, stuck to the story that husband was beating him but caseworker stated that his story sounded forced and scripted. Today (4/11) we recieved court papers stating that our visitation is immediately suspended until the court hearing on 4/20/06. Papers state that mother thinks the child is being emotionally and physically damaged, my husband is an alcoholic supposedly and he's been afraid to be with his father for over a year now and many other numerous accusations...mother does not feed him properly, he always looks exhausted when we pick him up, son's grades are plummeting and she or her husband do not help him with homework, he's not allowed to have friends over from school that are his own age, his oldest friend is 7 years old and he has told us this and many other disturbing facts such as he is not allowed to use the phone, and she was physically bathing him until 8 years old. Found that out when we were finally allowed to have him overnight and he wanted me to give him a bath because "I don't know how, mommy does it for me". Everytime he has wanted to stay longer with us, his mother starts bawling because she knows that he will feel bad for "hurting her feelings" and will leave with her...the step-father has reportedly called him names like "moron" and "idiot" and god knows what else...also step-father has 2 children of his own that he either chooses not to see or is not allowed to see...no one will give us information on that....we are really concerned about son and don't know what to do...we have an appointment with lawyer this week but we're very upset about the whole thing...anyone with advise on this sort of things or what we should bring to the lawyers or to court and anything other than our obvious concerns that we should bring to the lawyers attention. My husband is beside himself with grief and our 4 year old daughter keeps crying because she wants to see her half brother and we can't take her to see him...we're going crazy over here...we live in Ohio. Thank you

 

Thank you for your prayers, support and advice, my husband and I appreciate it...we talked to a lawyer on friday and he barely looked at us while we were telling him what was going on and danced around our questions then had the nerve to ask us for $1500 with 1/2 of it due before the first court date this coming thursday...not likely, i wish i had that kind of money laying around or even access but i don't so i'm going to Legal Aid on monday to talk to another lawyer, hopefully we aren't over the income limits.  Anyway the lawyer basically told us that with the type of paperwork she filed, this court date will basically be her trying to convince the judge that my step-son is in immediate danger being with us and that we should not see him, we may get to speak but it won't be for long, like you said mother's are always right and father's are the scum of the earth which i've always thought (even before i got married and had kids) was a bunch of bulls--t.  We are trying to keep our heads about the whole situation but it's harder on our 3 1/2 year old daughter...she wants to see her brother soooo bad and I have to keep lying to her that he is sick because she is too young to understand that "E.J.'s mommy doesn't want us to see him anymore"  That means nothing to her, all she knows is that she misses him and asks us everyday to take her to him and that just breaks our hearts even more.  The truth always comes out as they say but hopefully it's soon because we miss him terribly already and it's only been about 3 1/2 weeks.  Again thanks for the ear and have a nice holiday.

I am new to all of this, so I will try to be as clear as possible. (Might get pretty long though, sorry, I don't know all the abbreviations for the forums yet)  My husband has visitation order for his 11 year old son.  2 weekends ago (fri) she calls to inform us that son has mono and will not be coming to our house for visitation.  5 days later (last wed.) we found out that she had him out shopping saturday (the day after he was supposedly diagnosed with mono) husband called the mother and asked her why she would take him out with mono and why her new hubby or mother didn't stay with son or why we weren't called to go over and sit with him until she returned...she refused to answer any ?'s and my husband told her that she could have potentially made him worse and that he was going to find a lawyer.  Next day we recieved a call from CPS. Day after that lady from CPS came over and told us that his son and spoken with the mother's lawyer and told him that he was afraid to go over to our house and that father was beating him...shock to us because we've never laid a hand on him (mainly b/c son's mother is always looking for an excuse to keep son from my husband).  Lady from CPS told us that her next stop was to talk to son at school, we told her that supposedly that he was sick with mono and didn't know if he was in school or not, or even how he was for that matter considering numerous calls to son's mother and doctor went unreturned.  We asked her that if he was in school if she could call us to let us know because we were concerned that we had not heard from anyone as to his condition.  She calls back a few hours later to inform us that he was in school and that he looked perfectly fine, stuck to the story that husband was beating him but caseworker stated that his story sounded forced and scripted.  Today (4/11) we recieved court papers stating that our visitation is immediately suspended until the court hearing on 4/20/06.  Papers state that mother thinks the child is being emotionally and physically damaged, my husband is an alcoholic supposedly and he's been afraid to be with his father for over a year now and many other numerous accusations...mother does not feed him properly, he always looks exhausted when we pick him up, son's grades are plummeting and she or her husband do not help him with homework, he's not allowed to have friends over from school that are his own age, his oldest friend is 7 years old and he has told us this and many other disturbing facts such as he is not allowed to use the phone, and she was physically bathing him until 8 years old.  Found that out when we were finally allowed to have him overnight and he wanted me to give him a bath because "I don't know how, mommy does it for me".  Everytime he has wanted to stay longer with us, his mother starts bawling because she knows that he will feel bad for "hurting her feelings" and will leave with her...the step-father has reportedly called him names like "moron" and "idiot" and god knows what else...also step-father has 2 children of his own that he either chooses not to see or is not allowed to see...no one will give us information on that....we are really concerned about son and don't know what to do...we have an appointment with lawyer this week but we're very upset about the whole thing...anyone with advise on this sort of things or what we should bring to the lawyers or to court and anything other than our obvious concerns that we should bring to the lawyers attention.  My husband is beside himself with grief and our 4 year old daughter keep crying because she wants to see her half brother and we can't take her to see him...we're going crazy over here...we live in Ohio.  Thank you