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The child is 12.
Do I need to have these documents?
Has anyone ever got a refund or a credit because they over paid child care? I dont think so, but if someone has a story please post it.

The subpoena up front sounds like wasted money. What's the right way to do this?
Couldn't I just ask my ex to agree to drop child care?
And then if they dont agree, then go for the subpoena?

Both the child support and child care are are taken from my paycheck by the courts order.
The child support is being revisited this year. And my ex provided a 1040 tax return that claimed child care costs paid to the school child care centre.
I've learned from my child, they have not been going to any child care for the last three years.
Years ago I tried to get records from the school child care center but they gave me the run around.
What is the exact wording I need to use to get information about how much the school child care centre received and how much my child actually attended these past three years? Is this the right information to have in order to get the child care garnishment removed?

I've been through a losing custody battle. My heart breaks for you and the pain you and your children have right now.  

You need the right people to help your broken family.  You need to have the right reasons for doing what you are about to do.  A custody battle brings emotional pain. Can you bare all that pain yourself? Can you perfectly explain the reasons for the battle you are about to bring? Do you know what truly counts for evidence and how to present that so called evidence in a court of law? Can you do all that, and negotiate with a bunch of strangers called the family law court system? If so then Pro se away!

A custody battle is damaging to children. Children are treated like a prize to be won or lost in a court room. Family law courts are too busy. Most of the people that work in the system do it to make money. The Attorneys are trying to bill more hours. The Judges are trying to clear their calendar and stop the noise of the self righteous whiny so called adults that litter their court room floors. This is a fraternity who are strangers to you. The courts can not make parents be better parents. They can not fix the problems that are keeping your children from flourishing. And, after the battle is over, both of you are still the parents of these children. It is up to you as a good parent to do right for your children; that's a full time job in its self.  Whether your ex looses custody or not do you think they will want to work with you to be a good parent? Will they be humiliated and resent you and want revenge. Will they continue to use your children to get that revenge?

Having money and time to lavish on your children is more benificial than waisting it on a botched custody battle.

Is this worth trying an ex-parte to get permission to go to the funeral?
How would it look to a court if I went to the funeral and left the kids?
How would it look to a court if I missed the funeral because of this?

I'm the dad, and our two children live with their mother and mother has full custody. We live 3 hours apart. I have visitation ever other weekend, alternate holidays and all but two weeks of summer.

My Grandmother died and the funeral is this Sunday.  I asked to take the kids to the funeral and because of the driving distance to grandmother house we can't be back till Monday night. Our kids would miss one day of school so the mother refused.  

This funeral weekend is my regular alternating weekend with our kids and their mother also insists that I provide arraignments to care for our kids.  I've asked her to be flexible. She refuses.  I am upset and sad.  I have to make the choice between giving my last respects to my grandmother and being with our kids. I am trying to find someone to watch the kids, but it's an hour and half drive to pickup and drop off.

I've been flexible and currently I'm "owed" for two weekends that the mother requested to switch for previously this in September and October.  Last weekend could have been a make up weekend but the mother refused because she said she was leaving town. I have given up arguing with her logic. It turns out she is out of town all this week and the funeral weekend as well, returning Monday night. I only learned of this when I called to talk about the funeral and the kids told me that mom and boyfriend were gone and a paid sitter was watching them.  

All this is true. Please give me your honest advice. What is the best course of action for our children's sake? Don't sugar coat.

Thank you.

We all live in CA. I am the non-custodial dad of two children and I must provide the health insurance. I do this through a health savings account, HSA.

Our divorce order says that we split medical costs. But, no one knew about HSA's back then.  

My question:
When full-custody mom takes our children to the doctor, am I responsible for the full copay out of my HSA ?  Or, do I pay half and mom pays half?

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